"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do These Dj Principles Conflict?

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in the conversation part of the dj bible, it has been mentioned that the conversation should focus on the woman, correct?

but the fundamental principle of a dj is to be the challenge.

how does one become the challenge when all he talks about is the woman?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't think it means the conversation should be focused on her. It simply means to listen to her more and what she has to say (which will probably be about her)

Being a good listener is something women like in a man. It also creates mystery (by not talking about yourself too much, you are doing this and women love the 'not knowing' aspect)
 
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well my friend, if you want to listen to what she has to say, you gotta ask her those questions first. especially when you barely know her.

this is what happens to me. i would get to know these women, and all we ever talked about was about her. its focused on her, her, and her.

doesnt this pay too much attention to the woman? when you are the challenge, shoud't the woman be asking questions about you?
 

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You don't necessarily have to ask questions about her though. You can talk about any kind of random BS.

Maybe the woman should be asking questions about you - but if they don't, it's not necessarily because you're not a 'challenge'. The sad fact is, most ppl couldn't give a sh*t about anyone but themselves.
 

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You make HER talk about HERSELF! Thus remaining a 'mystery' yourself.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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fundamental principle of a dj is to be the challenge.
i.e. don't always be available. Don't do everything she wants to do. Don't always agree with her. Don't always pick the phone up when she calls - don't be a pvssy.

Having said that, when you are with her - you are as charming, fun and cool as you can be.... but conversation concentrates on her.
 

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Theory of knowledge..........THAT IS MY WHOLE FVCKING POINT.

What does one technique say, Focus the conversation on her. No, dont try to change what the technique said and meant, it means exactly what it said, focus the conversation on her.

What does the other technique say, Be a challenge. No, dont change what was meant, being a challenge means just that, beign a damn challenge,.

UH OH! HOW CAN I DO BOTH AT ONE TIME.

Could one technique had been used by one guy, and the other by another guy, and that guy thought that the technique worked and was the cause of attraction? Hmmmmmmmmmm

The guy got that puzzy because he CONNECTED with her, not because of the technique..................theory, do you see what I am saying now? Did you read my thread about women are simple.......do you see my point? Look at how long the dj bible is. They have techniques that begin with the first time you meet her, all the way down to the date, the phone conversation, what to wear, how to act, how to walk, how to converstate, how to do this and that, and this and that, and this and that..................when none of those things were the reason for the attraction in the first place!
 
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