"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BluEyes

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One of my friends--afc--has been 'gaming' a girl for the last few months, has told me about how "perfect" she is and all that gibberish. Anyways, we're chillin tonight and she sends him an email. He laps it up like a puppy would warm milk. He looks over at me and smiles, saying "Haha, i've almost got her" of all things.

This is what she wrote him:

thanks for being a great friend! you are always so nice and listen well. thanks for being supportive of me on the phone too. i know it's hard because of the situation but no matter what i don't want you to feel like you have to be put in the middle because i don't expect that of you EVER. glad to have you as a great friend! and i can't wait to see you on monday! love you!
Textbook, eh?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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BluEyes said:
One of my friends--afc--has been 'gaming' a girl for the last few months, has told me about how "perfect" she is and all that gibberish. Anyways, we're chillin tonight and she sends him an email. He laps it up like a puppy would warm milk. He looks over at me and smiles, saying "Haha, i've almost got her" of all things.

This is what she wrote him:



Textbook, eh?
but she loves him!

yup... "Haha, he's almost got her"
 

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Friends dont let friends be AFC's help him out man :D :D
 

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Poor guy... Poor, POOR guy... I remember when I would have been the same... How about this, you ask him for dating advice, if he doesn't or laughs at you, don't help HIM...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Upthere said:
Friends dont let friends be AFC's help him out man :D :D
No. That's some don't ask, don't tell ****. People get offended when you give them dating advice. Plus, sosuave dating advice is so unorthodox to the twisted world we live in, he'll probably laugh at you. So just let them learn on their own.
 

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If he was to ask me for advice, I'd gladly show him the ropes...

The thing is I don't really help people unless they ask for help. There are those, however, that refuse to ask for help to the last breath.

My other buddy is moderately decent at gaming girls...He relies 95% on looks however... Just over a year ago, I asked him "how are you good/who taught you" and he gave me some weird answer like "some people have it, some dont" and didnt have an answer at all. He's lucky that he looks like a model, or else he'd be half way up hell's @ss by now. He's developed some self-confidence through that, so he is getting better.

The thing with him is that now he sees me pulling booty left and right sometimes when we go out, and I'm the one who's had a string of steady girlfriends for the past 6 months. Guess what he says to that?

"must be the hair" or "must be the voice" or "must be the eyes"

That's about the depth of his understanding of attraction.

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So I'm torn between realizing that this other guy will NEVER ask for help, and because this one does not look like a model, he doesn't have much of a chance on his own, so I should just shove some much needed info down his throat. On the other hand... Some people just aren't ready for some stuff...

The thing is he's a pretty close buddy, so i don't wanna leave him hanging.

I've been thinking of just bringing him along whenever I go out to the bars, mabye he'll pick up some stuff offhand from pure experience and no knowledge...

We'll see.
 
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