"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do most girls send obvious signals when they are interested in a guy?

Do most women send out obvious signals when they want to be asked out?

  • Yes

    Votes: 38 82.6%
  • No

    Votes: 8 17.4%

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mahon83050

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My sister and I were talking about dating and how to tell when a girl is interested. I believe one can usually tell and I base it on various signals (prolonged eye contact, open body language, asks you alot of questions etc.) I told her in order for me to ask out a woman, I have to see some of these signals from her, unless I assume she is not interested.

To me, if a girl is crossing her arms (unless it is cold), does not hold your gaze, and seems aloof...It is safe to assume she is not interested. She told me I was wrong and different women do alot of different things and she can act cold even if she is really interested. I mostly disagree with her, as I have learned on here...not to take advice from women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Definitely YES!:up: If there's not signal, it means she's not enough interested, or even not at all.

But the problem is that NOT every girl who sends obvious signal is genuinely interested in the guy. And more often than not...:whistle:

Read: Attention Wh*res:kick:
 

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Le Parisien said:
Definitely YES!:up: If there's not signal, it means she's not enough interested, or even not at all.

But the problem is that NOT every girl who sends obvious signal is genuinely interested in the guy. And more often than not...:whistle:

Read: Attention Wh*res:kick:
Thank You. That is what I thought.
 

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Le Parisien said:
But the problem is that NOT every girl who sends obvious signal is genuinely interested in the guy. And more often than not...:whistle:
thats why you have to test her stages of attraction
 

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They all send signals when they are interested, some of them are very subtle though (some body language positions).
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some I usually look for: Holding of gaze, dilation of pupils (sometimes), preening of herself (usually hair), does she touch you? and most of all..smiles alot when she sees you.
 

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Yes they send signals but they're only obvious if you know what to look for. Experience is the best educator.
 

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If you guys are sleepy then wash your face right now… you only get the above “signals of interest” if you are Danzel Washington or Brad Pitts, Hmmm maybe luck comes by once in a blue moon.
Watching out for these signals is just another way of adding negations to why you shouldn’t approach your targets.
God I wanna give a hard kick to Hollywood and the “keyboard Djs” for instilling confusion in wannabe DJs!
 

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The easiest one to spot is if a bunch of you are hanging out and she seems to shadow you and talk to you the whole time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Allow me to disagree in part. While some girls will make signalso of interest, I found after speaking with A LOT of women that a lot of them won't give you any signals for several reasons:

1. Some of them are too shy and too scared - it's even hard for us, guys, to look women in the eyes under certain circumstances. Imagine how difficult it is for them.

2. Some women truly believe it's inappropriate and bad behavior and they don't want to come across as desperate. Stupid thinking, but... still - it's out there.

3. A lot of women want a guy to do ALL the work and that's what they expect.

I have gone out with some single female friends who were dying to meet men and would talk to anyone who would approach them and yet when they were standing and talking together at a bar, they wouldn't even glance at anybody but each other.

So... while eye contact is great and very helpful, don't let lack thereof be a red light for approaching women.
 

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I have to say yes girls do give obvious signs but i can't trust my sister to give me an answer because she really tries her hardest to put me down
 

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I've met some girls who I found out later were interested in me, but their attitude made me think they did not give a damn. I've also met other girls who made their affection for me very clear.

It all depends on the girl. Not every girl is the same. That being said, I assume attraction from the very start, and just procede with confidence
 

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Remember: There are intentional signals and unintentional signals.

Getting flustered, restless, touching hair and things are often unintentional signs of interest even the shyest girls give off. Actually shy girls give off more trustworthy signals because some women are just generally flirty with everyone.
 

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If you are good at reading body languages and other signals you will constantly see it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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they're only obvious if you know what to look for. Experience is the best educator.
Bingo. That pretty much sums it up.
 

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I have also got signals strong enough to think a girl must like me and then it turns out she does not!
 

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What do you think IOI means.......

My answer to this question is: 3 times pies


Ask a stupid question.....get a stupid answer :up:



Sarge On!
 

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It is very important that you can read the body language of the hot babe that you desire if you want to obtain her.

If girls are attracted to you they will do one or more of these things, (1) Raise their eyebrows, (2) Twirl their hair, (3) Speak to you in a little girl like voice, (4) Compliment you on strange things, (5) Touch you with their hands, (6) Push their body into yours, (7) Look at you when you are not looking at them, (8) Smile at you whenever you smile at them.

Not every girl that is attracted to you will do all of these things, but these are some of the ways of which you can tell if a hot babe desires you or not. :up:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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