"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Do monkeys pay for sex?

Hooligan Harry

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Time said:
It turns out that one of humanity's oldest professions may be even older than we thought: In a recent study of macaque monkeys in Indonesia, researchers found that male primates "paid" for sexual access to females — and that the going rate for such access dwindled as the number of available females went up.
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According to the paper, "Payment for Sex in a Macaque Mating Market," published in the December issue of Animal Behavior, males in a group of about 50 long-tailed macaques in Kalimantan Tengah, Indonesia, traded grooming services for sex with females; researchers, who studied the monkeys for some 20 months, found that males offered their payment up-front, as a kind of pre-sex ritual. It worked. After the females were groomed by male partners, female sexual activity more than doubled, from an average of 1.5 times an hour to 3.5 times. The study also showed that the number of minutes that males spent grooming hinged on the number of females available at the time: The better a male's odds of getting lucky, the less nit-picking time the females received. Though primates have been observed trading grooming for food sharing or infant care, this is the first time this kind of exchange has been observed between male and female primates in a sexual context, says lead researcher Michael Gumert of Singapore's Nanyang Technological University, demonstrating that the amount of time a male macaque "will invest in [its] partner" depends largely on how many options it has around.
http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1700821,00.html

Now is it wrong that I read this with a smile on my face? Having spent a fair bit of time abroad, I can tell you one thing. When you go to Eastern Europe where there are a shortage of eligible men in quite a few places, you have bombshells quite happy just to date anyone thats not going to beat them or try sleep with their sister within the first month.

Cant help but think this may be hard wired into humans too. When men are scarce, women become a hell of a lot friendlier. When men are available, they become fat and psychotic :)

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Scaramouche

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Dear Harry,
I am grateful for that,You always pay for it don't you Harry?,if not right away then at the ending....The way to go is to be a Toy Boy,has any one any thoughts on that...
 

penkitten

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so do they pay with bananas or what?

grooming rituals = foreplay
 

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"grooming rituals = foreplay"
not really, in that case, from what the quote said, they would be trading foreplay for food
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Scaramouche

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Dear All,
I think Penkitten was referring to paying Toy Boys with Bananas,thereby suggesting that you would have to be a monkey,or some lower life form, to engage in this activity...you know if you pay peanuts don't be surprised what you get...Subtle..
 

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I'm gonna bring an apple or banana to my next date. I'm old fashioned.
 
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