The possibility of attraction over the internet may be difficult to imagine, probably mostly to people of the older generations, but it is a thing which should not be overlooked. Albeit somewhat immature, dating for my generation (90s babies and younger) often focuses on making initial contact through social networks like Facebook. This is followed by a period of conversing (which may span months before any physical meet). It is entirely possible that in this time, one can become attracted to someone (or at least the idea of them) over the internet.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
do men have any hope left ?
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- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Trying too hard, mate. Get to the point and ask these broads out on dates. If they accept, you have a chance.
How long texting by itself will keep her interested is usually inversely proportional to her quality though.
Building attraction online is just a bad idea in general. So much meaning is lost and misinterpreted through text. And you're playing on the woman's turf. The guy is supposed to pursue and initiate, but online this means the interaction is controlled entirely by her discretion. She has all the power. She can easily disrespect you by delaying her response or ignoring you, whether or not it's even intentional. And guess what? Every time she does, you're still there. Because you're the pursuer. The guy ends up becoming a monkey jumping through hoops. None of this happens face to face or over the phone.
I agree completely. I was just trying to state that online attraction does happen - but, yes, it is definitely ill advised as it causes expectations which sometimes cannot be lived up to.