"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do I text her the day after a date or let her text me?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
if she texts you; great, wait a little bit to respond back and don't turn it into a full fledge text convo - keep it short. dont ask her out for the next date via text. call her tomorrow and tell her you're busy friday but you could hang out on saturday and invite her over on sat. (obviously use information you have to better judge her available days.. if she goes out with her girls every saturday or if she's a huge weekend warrior, etc., then invite her to hang out sometime next week).
if she doesn't text you at all, again, don't text her.. and wait until tmrw to call. Texting is kind of risky for "after first-date" scenarios. Technically, if a girl is into you, it doesn't matter - but if she is on the fence (for whatever reason, could have nothing to do with you.. say she is freshly broken up or something), it's easier to be more accepting and engaging over the phone.
whatever you do, avoid being over-eager towards seeing her again. you didn't really give any details so it's hard to judge the situation, but let us know what happens.
did you get anywhere physically?
eckhart tolle
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i dont get this. you bought a girl dinner who has never ****ed you? please tell me she paid for it and not you. or at least you each paid for your own food. please.
and believe me she doesnt put out for YOU. but she sure as hell is putting out for some other dude. you think chicks ever stop having sex? NOPE they gotta git their sex somewhere if its not from you after that dinner. its from some other dude she met up with the morning after when you were deciding if you were gonna take her out for dinner again LOL. i really hope youre not paying for her food LOL. and again i think shes getting her sex from some other dude while you typed this thread up LOL.
aight ill help ya out:
text her like this so you wont come off as a desperate needy loser.
you: Hey, I'm getting my dinner at 6:15 from Burger Planet. Want to join?
aight so this implies that you DONT NEED her to have your food and dinner. even if she says NO you will still get your food. so you did not need her. she was simply an addition to your meal.
you can also be creative like this.
you: yo im checking out the new store at 6:00, wanna join?
you: yo ima go feed the dogs at the park at 6:00, wanna join?
you: yo ima go to this cool new place at 6:00, wanna join?
neghitzbrah
Don Juan
Well, he should say "you should come with me" instead of asking her and putting the ball in her court.eckhart tolle said:LOL dude. LOL.
i dont get this. you bought a girl dinner who has never ****ed you? please tell me she paid for it and not you. or at least you each paid for your own food. please.
and believe me she doesnt put out for YOU. but she sure as hell is putting out for some other dude. you think chicks ever stop having sex? NOPE they gotta git their sex somewhere if its not from you after that dinner. its from some other dude she met up with the morning after when you were deciding if you were gonna take her out for dinner again LOL. i really hope youre not paying for her food LOL. and again i think shes getting her sex from some other dude while you typed this thread up LOL.
aight ill help ya out:
text her like this so you wont come off as a desperate needy loser.
you: Hey, I'm getting my dinner at 6:15 from Burger Planet. Want to join?
aight so this implies that you DONT NEED her to have your food and dinner. even if she says NO you will still get your food. so you did not need her. she was simply an addition to your meal.
you can also be creative like this.
you: yo im checking out the new store at 6:00, wanna join?
you: yo ima go feed the dogs at the park at 6:00, wanna join?
you: yo ima go to this cool new place at 6:00, wanna join?
At first I thought you were bein kinda cruel to him, but then you helped him. Kudos. The dude's got a point, duke. At this point, if you don't know what to do, then it means you haven't really made an impression. Take a step back, analyze the situation, and work on your mistakes. It sounds like you still have a chance to spit more game.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The question you should be asking isduke104 said:Took this girl out to dinner last night, had a great time, had some good convos, etc. Should I text her today (or anytime in the next couple days) or should I let her text me first?
why are you having dinner with a girl you haven't banged yet?