"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do I still have a chance?

DJNTraining

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i have just recently gotten out of a 2 year relationship and really am lacking in the confidence area right now. anyways, i went into a best buy and this girl which i will say is an 8 checked me out and starting talking to me. she asked if i wanted to try 8 free issues of some magazine and i said no thank you. i pull out my best buy card to pay for the cd and she says i see you have a best buy card. i said yeah and it's just about maxed out. she asked to see my id and i told her that that really was me in the picture, that i just recently cut my hair. so she starts asking me all these questions about my hair and stuff like did i blow dry it since it was long and i said yeah since my hair was so thick. anyways i was working my way up to either asking her out or asking for her number. didn't really know which one would have been better to do. anyways a rather large family came to her line since she was the only one checking out and i never asked either. my question is do you guys think i stilll have a chance at either. i planned on going in there today to see if she was working. could use a little help with the approach. Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Nice Guy is Gone

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Originally posted by DJNTraining
i have just recently gotten out of a 2 year relationship and really am lacking in the confidence area right now. anyways, i went into a best buy and this girl which i will say is an 8 checked me out and starting talking to me. she asked if i wanted to try 8 free issues of some magazine and i said no thank you. i pull out my best buy card to pay for the cd and she says i see you have a best buy card. i said yeah and it's just about maxed out. she asked to see my id and i told her that that really was me in the picture, that i just recently cut my hair. so she starts asking me all these questions about my hair and stuff like did i blow dry it since it was long and i said yeah since my hair was so thick. anyways i was working my way up to either asking her out or asking for her number. didn't really know which one would have been better to do. anyways a rather large family came to her line since she was the only one checking out and i never asked either. my question is do you guys think i stilll have a chance at either. i planned on going in there today to see if she was working. could use a little help with the approach. Thanks.
DO NOT GO BACK TODAY WITH THE PURPOSE OF GETTING HER NUMBER. That seems way too desperate. If you go in with another purpose, maybe to buy something, and she just HAPPENS to be there, should be no harm in trying again.
 

frivolousz21

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oh man!

dont do that.....

I wouldnt approach her...

improve your mental state first...!

good luck
 

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i wasn't going to go in there for the sole purpose of asking for her number or asking her out. i was planning on buying a cd and then if she was working going to her line and saying something like hey remember me, i'm the one who used to blow dry his hair. and then going from there. sound ok?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dont say "hey remember me?" it makes you sound really insecure. Just go up to her and talk like she remembers you. Like "Hey how are you today?" make small talk, get number and leave.
 
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