I didn't start to feel hurt until this girl started talking about liking someone. I'm not sure if I'm really having feelings for her or is it some sort of competitive feeling. We're good friends and run in the same social circle. I don't want to jeopardize our relationship unless what I'm feeling for her is more than just friends.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Do I really have feelings for her?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Yes you do.
It's normal to realize this once her attention starts going elsewhere. It works both ways though, if a girl has you in the friend zone and you start bringing a hot chick around....either the claws come out or she starts trying to pull you into the broom closet when no ones looking. Last you thing you want to do now is to start acting like a puppy dog around her. Like Bradd said, avoid her.....or find yourself a different woman.
oh yeah, and spin plates.
It's normal to realize this once her attention starts going elsewhere. It works both ways though, if a girl has you in the friend zone and you start bringing a hot chick around....either the claws come out or she starts trying to pull you into the broom closet when no ones looking. Last you thing you want to do now is to start acting like a puppy dog around her. Like Bradd said, avoid her.....or find yourself a different woman.
oh yeah, and spin plates.