"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Do I HAVE to have a "Best Man" at my wedding?

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I don't really don't wanta supplicate and ask a dude friend to by my best man. I don't have that many dude friends besides the guys I work with, but I do have One good friend whose wedding I attended last year. Do you have to have a best man, and a bunch of groomsmen? I don't want a big wedding. I want to just be hitched and be done with it. I know that women want the most expensive wedding ever, but I just wanta save her dad the money. I'd be a magnificent son-in-law for that. We'd play golf together too. Win-win.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this is all up to you and the bride to determine.
usually you have the same amount of people stand up for you, as she will have stand up for her.
most people ask brothers, cousins, and best friends.
others go it alone and dont ask anyone.

this is all up to you!
 

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Yes I have two brothers, but I haven't spoken with them in years. A lot of my co-workers would "stand up" for me as well as my customers, but I don't want to mess up our strictly business relationships. I'm very private. I got asked by my cousin to be a groomsman 4 years ago. All I did was stand there and walk arm in arm with one of the bridesmaids. I've come a long way from that day until now, but I just want to get this stuff over with so that people will be out of my business ASAP.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Maybe DrD77. We don't really know each other that well but she's 9 years younger and I can't pass her up. I'd like a few children, and she's the perfect age for that. I'm concerned about a larger house note. Other than that, I can support us all. House notes suck, what with all the taxes, association fees, and stupid insurance. I see it as robbery buying a house.
 

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Kerpal said:
Thanks for that, Kerpal. But I'm Still getting married to a traditional American chick. We're looking at getting married in September I guess, maybe sooner.
 
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