imarockstar
Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 1, 2008
- Messages
- 153
- Reaction score
- 17
Sup guys, havent posted in a while. Things are going pretty great in my life. Im pretty happy with who I am, and how I interact with women. EXCEPT...
Let me explain in detail. Had a LTR 2 years ago which lasted 4 years. Had amazing sex constantly, I know Im pretty good at it. Well in the last 2 years I traded focusing on women and ONS's for improving my quality of life, my direction, and my passions. There were times that I went through some dryspells, even lasting up to 4 months at a time. In between these times I would be involved with a girl or I would have a random fling.
But ever since I broke up with my LTR, the majority of my sexual encounters have fu&kin sucked. I guess because I will go through periods of time where I dont have sex, and I fear that I am rusty and wont be good. This in turn makes me nervous, and my past couple sexual encounters have resulted in me losing my erection. Also, the majority of these encounters are while I am drunk.
But I have no problem getting it up in the morning or when I MB (which is usually only once a week). So I know its my nerves, or the fact that Im not comfortable with the girl or my ability to please her.
I dont know why this bothers me, because my attitude towards women is "who cares, if she doesnt like me its her loss". But for some reason I want sex to be perfect, I dont want the girl to think, "man what a let down".
I know if I had a serious GF, this wouldnt be an issue. I could take it slow, which deep down is what I want. But in the meantime I do want sex, no matter if I like the girl or not. Only problem is, every girl I meet is a fu*kin sl*t or crazy, so I have to resort to ONS's for a little while.
Ive read about performance anxiety, and I havent had a lot of sexual partners, just have had a lot of sex with the same people. So I guess its just weird for me to be with someone new. But the fact is Id rather have sex than MB so at this point I dont care.
Im beginning to ramble, Im just wondering if anyone here has dealt with this issue and how they overcame it. Im open to any suggestions guys, thanks.
Let me explain in detail. Had a LTR 2 years ago which lasted 4 years. Had amazing sex constantly, I know Im pretty good at it. Well in the last 2 years I traded focusing on women and ONS's for improving my quality of life, my direction, and my passions. There were times that I went through some dryspells, even lasting up to 4 months at a time. In between these times I would be involved with a girl or I would have a random fling.
But ever since I broke up with my LTR, the majority of my sexual encounters have fu&kin sucked. I guess because I will go through periods of time where I dont have sex, and I fear that I am rusty and wont be good. This in turn makes me nervous, and my past couple sexual encounters have resulted in me losing my erection. Also, the majority of these encounters are while I am drunk.
But I have no problem getting it up in the morning or when I MB (which is usually only once a week). So I know its my nerves, or the fact that Im not comfortable with the girl or my ability to please her.
I dont know why this bothers me, because my attitude towards women is "who cares, if she doesnt like me its her loss". But for some reason I want sex to be perfect, I dont want the girl to think, "man what a let down".
I know if I had a serious GF, this wouldnt be an issue. I could take it slow, which deep down is what I want. But in the meantime I do want sex, no matter if I like the girl or not. Only problem is, every girl I meet is a fu*kin sl*t or crazy, so I have to resort to ONS's for a little while.
Ive read about performance anxiety, and I havent had a lot of sexual partners, just have had a lot of sex with the same people. So I guess its just weird for me to be with someone new. But the fact is Id rather have sex than MB so at this point I dont care.
Im beginning to ramble, Im just wondering if anyone here has dealt with this issue and how they overcame it. Im open to any suggestions guys, thanks.