weird situation....theres this superhot girl that works infront of where i work in the mall....she told one of my co-workers she thinks im hot so my co-worker gave her my number and also got hers so that i could call her that night.....i planned on calling her the next day but she called me and we talk for like 3 minutes and i was kinda busy so she said shell let me go and to call her the next day.....the next day i call her and she dont answer, then she calls me back and i dont answer cause im at work, so i send her a text and she tells me to all her back later....so i call her when i get out of work and she doesnt answer and doesnt call me back.....now its sunday, should i call her or what? i really wanna set up a date with her for like 3 days from now
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
do i call her or what?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Guru Tha Don
New Member
haram said:
Guru Tha Don
New Member
stop playing phone tag and sending messages and go over and talk to her like a man would and never get a girls number through some one else when you can get it yourself, unless your 15! go over and talk to her, show some confidence.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
First of all, if you see a girl your attracted to, you should go approach her. None of this middleman number exchanging bullshyt.
Secondly, you've shown your interest now, don't call her anytime soon. Instead, go talk to her next time you take a break and just shoot the shiat. Don't mention anything about her not returning your recent call. See if she seems receptive and is enjoying herself. If she is, then try and set something up, if she's not, then you have your answer. However in any case I would wait at least 2-3 days before you try.
PIMP
Secondly, you've shown your interest now, don't call her anytime soon. Instead, go talk to her next time you take a break and just shoot the shiat. Don't mention anything about her not returning your recent call. See if she seems receptive and is enjoying herself. If she is, then try and set something up, if she's not, then you have your answer. However in any case I would wait at least 2-3 days before you try.
PIMP
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
If she's as hot as you say she is I'd wait until you see her next Sunday, and then ask her out then...(it doesn't matter that it's a week away). You were the last one to call and she didn't return your call. She knows it's her turn to call, so don't call her back. Chances are you'll get a call from her before Sunday.
You are acting like a geek with all the stupid phone tag stuff. Just wait until next Sunday when you see her and talk to her in person. Have a plan for something to do and ask her out.
If you work closely with this girl then expect drama in your future - you've been warned.
If you work closely with this girl then expect drama in your future - you've been warned.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
Remember phones are only to set up dates and **** want to conversate face to face. So just walk across to her store and set it up.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
dating co workers always ends badly with you searching for a new job.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
1. Its not his coworker. Read the first post guy.
2. WAY to much phoning and texting going on. Like reading that it looked like there were about 30 different phone calls made over the course of 2 or 3 days... nuts.
You text her ONE more time and say 'Call me tomorrow at XXX time.' and you be available at XXX time so you can pick up the phone. Say 'Hello', 'I'm busy tomorrow but lets go out after that...okay bye.'
2. WAY to much phoning and texting going on. Like reading that it looked like there were about 30 different phone calls made over the course of 2 or 3 days... nuts.
You text her ONE more time and say 'Call me tomorrow at XXX time.' and you be available at XXX time so you can pick up the phone. Say 'Hello', 'I'm busy tomorrow but lets go out after that...okay bye.'
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
Why is it that you and lone star have very similiar stories and both of you guys joined today?
I agree. In addition, I am a gal and haram is a male. The stories are in fact opposite.haram said:
But haram, I think you should walk over where she works and look her in the eye and tell her what you think. But then again that takes courage, which is something I may need too. Good luck.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.