weird situation....theres this superhot girl that works infront of where i work in the mall....she told one of my co-workers she thinks im hot so my co-worker gave her my number and also got hers so that i could call her that night.....i planned on calling her the next day but she called me and we talk for like 3 minutes and i was kinda busy so she said shell let me go and to call her the next day.....the next day i call her and she dont answer, then she calls me back and i dont answer cause im at work, so i send her a text and she tells me to all her back later....so i call her when i get out of work and she doesnt answer and doesnt call me back.....now its sunday, should i call her or what? i really wanna set up a date with her for like 3 days from now
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
do i call her or what?
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Guru Tha Don
New Member
haram said:
Guru Tha Don
New Member
stop playing phone tag and sending messages and go over and talk to her like a man would and never get a girls number through some one else when you can get it yourself, unless your 15! go over and talk to her, show some confidence.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
First of all, if you see a girl your attracted to, you should go approach her. None of this middleman number exchanging bullshyt.
Secondly, you've shown your interest now, don't call her anytime soon. Instead, go talk to her next time you take a break and just shoot the shiat. Don't mention anything about her not returning your recent call. See if she seems receptive and is enjoying herself. If she is, then try and set something up, if she's not, then you have your answer. However in any case I would wait at least 2-3 days before you try.
PIMP
Secondly, you've shown your interest now, don't call her anytime soon. Instead, go talk to her next time you take a break and just shoot the shiat. Don't mention anything about her not returning your recent call. See if she seems receptive and is enjoying herself. If she is, then try and set something up, if she's not, then you have your answer. However in any case I would wait at least 2-3 days before you try.
PIMP
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
If she's as hot as you say she is I'd wait until you see her next Sunday, and then ask her out then...(it doesn't matter that it's a week away). You were the last one to call and she didn't return your call. She knows it's her turn to call, so don't call her back. Chances are you'll get a call from her before Sunday.
You are acting like a geek with all the stupid phone tag stuff. Just wait until next Sunday when you see her and talk to her in person. Have a plan for something to do and ask her out.
If you work closely with this girl then expect drama in your future - you've been warned.
If you work closely with this girl then expect drama in your future - you've been warned.
TONYMONTANA523
Don Juan
Remember phones are only to set up dates and **** want to conversate face to face. So just walk across to her store and set it up.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
dating co workers always ends badly with you searching for a new job.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
1. Its not his coworker. Read the first post guy.
2. WAY to much phoning and texting going on. Like reading that it looked like there were about 30 different phone calls made over the course of 2 or 3 days... nuts.
You text her ONE more time and say 'Call me tomorrow at XXX time.' and you be available at XXX time so you can pick up the phone. Say 'Hello', 'I'm busy tomorrow but lets go out after that...okay bye.'
2. WAY to much phoning and texting going on. Like reading that it looked like there were about 30 different phone calls made over the course of 2 or 3 days... nuts.
You text her ONE more time and say 'Call me tomorrow at XXX time.' and you be available at XXX time so you can pick up the phone. Say 'Hello', 'I'm busy tomorrow but lets go out after that...okay bye.'
Faded Image
Senior Don Juan
Why is it that you and lone star have very similiar stories and both of you guys joined today?
I agree. In addition, I am a gal and haram is a male. The stories are in fact opposite.haram said:
But haram, I think you should walk over where she works and look her in the eye and tell her what you think. But then again that takes courage, which is something I may need too. Good luck.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.