"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do I answer now or wait?

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Quick question here....

I have been seeing some girl that came out of long relationship and it's very clear that she is really into me, she thinks about me all day etc blahblah well since we both weren't sure if we wanted anything serious (commitment etc even though we were commited inn not seeing anyone else...) I told her monday or something that "Cool, spend some time thinking and don't contact me before sunday" or not worded like that but inn a more friendly way...

She managed to hold out until today, she SMSd and IMd me within a few minutes of eachother when I was at Martial arts practice. She knows I must see both of these because she lives at same dorm, she can see my window from hers and I'm pretty sure she knows I just came home 20 minutes ago and have had to have seen IM and SMS....

So do I answer her? Or do I wait until tomorrow when it's sunday? Or actually after midnight for kicks ;) ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't 'out-DJ' yourself!
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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High interest and afraid of commitment? Ask her over if possible, or ask her to sneak out and meet you somewhere. Kiss her and tell her that you're sorry if you were out of line but you've been wanting to do that all day. You can make a move here, but do something with her face to face. IM is only good for cyber sex.
 

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One lesson I learned in my last few attempts at the whole dating thing, is that you should never assume you've won and give up the DJ act.

For example, in the last occasion is was a girl in my class that was always getting off her way to chat with me while she had barely known me. When i finally decided to get to know her better, she would reply to my emails within minutes of receiving them, and before we met she sent me her number without me asking for it.

So I assumed she's really into me, and didn't bother to do the usual DJ stuff. Next couple of times i told her to meet up, she was busy and didn't counteroffer. Go figure...

So in the future, I will not assume i've got the woman head over heels, and keep playing with her head until after I've gotten her laid...

ThePanther
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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