My friend was telling me tonight that girls that have a high pitch kiddy voice meaning girls 19 and above have had a trouble past like something tramatic happening to them. Is this true? he said he heard it in his psychology class?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Originally posted by Egoist
yo guys..
uhm, it is an empirically proven fact that those women who went through something veyr traumatic (abuse, rape, etc) at an early age retain the high "childish" pitch of voice.
this has been proven over and over and over in the past couple of decades by serious psych research.
I, too, was an avid listener to the show, up until recent when Adam Carolla left the show. Adam and Drew are experts of the human voice, having done the show for decades. They can tell just by someone’s voice if they are a virgin, a stoner, a meth addict, depressed, or most commonly if they were physically or sexually abused as a kid. They thoroughly and consistently demonstrated over the years, probably during every show, you are your voice. As for the baby voice, every female caller who had a baby voice answered in the affirmative when asked the question of if they were sexually abused as a kid—no exceptions.SL1000R:
I've heard the same thing...I used to listen to the radio program called love-line and doctor drew, always knew when a woman had a tramatic past due to her voice
Originally posted by Mintyfresh
its only stupid to assume that every woman with a high pitched voice has a troubled past
its intelligent to be open to the possibility that some of these girls brains could've developed the speech patterns from the negative stimulation in thier pasts
put it this way, do you belive that the atom is the smallest particle of matter? Of course you do, but are you open to the possibility that theres smaller parts of an atom that phase in and out of existance constantly?
basicly "nobody knows for sure" on both accounts
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
And as for...General Caller Betting
Without talking to a caller for more than 15-20 seconds Dr. Drew and Carolla would put them on hold and place $1 bets on the caller's past. The theory being that they have fielded so many calls by so many people that they could hear the specific problem in the caller's voice and detect what events led to their present. Example:
Caller: I'm just depressed all the time.
Carolla: I can hear the little girl voice, Drew. Are you thinking what I'm thinking?
Drew: My wife has my wallet. I'm good for the dollar.
Carolla: I'm going with...father, no no, a weird Uncle touched her at the age of...9.
Drew: I hear molestation too, but I'm going with kid-on-kid. This was someone she played with. Maybe a year or two younger.
Carolla: Caller?
Caller: My best friend in 3rd grade forced me to touch her repeatedly.
On the surface this sounds rather callous, but the reason they did it is worth noting. It's designed to show people that their problems are not unique. Hundreds of people have had this same problem and it manfests in a very reliable, detectable way in their voice.
They were extremely accurate in their predictions.
True, it was a great show. The callers and their questions were horrible and boring, but I loved listening for Adam’s rants and insights in life and for Drew’s encyclopedic medical knowledge.SL1000R:
Yeah, the show when downhill once Adam Carolla left...and thats when I quit listening...Its Too bad, was a great show.
Originally posted by Deep Dish
They can tell just by someone’s voice if they are a virgin, a stoner, a meth addict, depressed, or most commonly if they were physically or sexually abused as a kid.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.