"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've come to believe they don't. So why do guys always seem to be pining away for them and they could give two sh*ts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I doubt they would for any guy on this site, but they do.
 

cNfny

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Haha. But knowing how attraction works and the downfall of it. Why would they miss any ex guy?
 

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Of course they do, if she really likes/loves the guy. What the hell is wrong with people on this site?
 

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I'm talkin about after a guy's demise and the attraction is lost. It just seems like they miss a guy for how they make them feel not for him as a person.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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cNfny said:
I've come to believe they don't. So why do guys always seem to be pining away for them and they could give two sh*ts?
You should hang out with more women during lunch, you think that we have it bad...
 

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Only when the guy they opt out on you for drops them.
 

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They do but it really depends on the guy. Belive me, if you come to this site shes not missing ya. Keep in mind they usually have a larger social network too, so if they miss one guy they can just as easily hang out with another one. Still they are more emotional so when they do miss a guy, it'll hit them a lot harder than most guys.
 

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so she probably wouldn't miss someone she left?

in the case of depleted attraction, do they show they missed the guy later if it so happens?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If she has a reason to miss him, she will.
 

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Women miss and need guys a lot more than the other way around in my experience. An inordinate amount of their time and self worth are determined by the men in their lives.
 

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bigjohnson said:
Women miss and need guys a lot more than the other way around in my experience. An inordinate amount of their time and self worth are determined by the men in their lives.
I agree with this statement, but I disagree with another statement.

If you visit this site then most likely she is not missing you.

While I agree with that statement, if you are a first time visitor, then yes, she will not be missing you. If you are a member that has been here for a while, then most likely she may very well be missing you.

I am only here because I am trying to help out the newbie members.

comic_relief
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
You should hang out with more women during lunch, you think that we have it bad...
What do you mean, specifically
 

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Aenigma said:
What do you mean, specifically
He means you should listen to the stories of the crushes girls get compared to guys, they fall a lot harder because they are a lot more emotional.

Just get to know some girls, and you'll see how much they obsess.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think people here do too much reading and not enoguh actual hanging with girls. (That wasn't directed at everyone). If I sign on MSN I'm almost guarenteed to have at least 5 girls online who have "OMG MISSING YOU SO MUCH, LOVE HURTS :(" in their names... (sorry to sue MSN as an example)
 

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haha the topics around here never seem to amaze me. Some of you guys really are lost.:confused: Seriosuly instead of coming here asking questions about what u should do simply get real authentic confidence and live your life to the fullest. Life isn't a scripted event, it's your life. Live, laugh, love and be confident in yourself. The rest just comes natural. Yet so many fools will never realize this.:kick:
 

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Oh, I'm quite sure my ex misses me, in fact, she told me.

She's not really LTR material though, so I'm just enjoying the time now when the tables are turned :D

Girls do miss guys, but there must be an attraction first, otherwise, there is nothing to miss.
 

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Aenigma said:
What do you mean, specifically
Hang out with more women and listen to what they talk about. Believe it or not, most women spend a heck of a lot of time obsessing over what they think their guy is doing/thinking/believing. More times than not they're off base but they need to know so that's why many give sh1t tests.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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