"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do girls love male friends?

Knight of Roses

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So I been hitting the town last few months pretty regularly, building my contacts and making new friends. There's a few girls which I've met along the way; now they're pretty attractive, but Im not attracted to them myself. But, hot girls bring other hot girls so I would always hang out with them. I think now the lines are pretty fairly drawn that we're just friends. I'm not interested in being more than friends with them, (now, they do have other girlfriends which Im trying to bang, but thats a different story)

Thing is, these girls are ALWAYS down to hang out; even more so than my guy friends. It's like, no matter what day or time I hit them up, they're always down to go drinking, eating, etc.

Wtf?

Am I missing something here?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bat soup

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So I been hitting the town last few months pretty regularly, building my contacts and making new friends. There's a few girls which I've met along the way; now they're pretty attractive, but Im not attracted to them myself. But, hot girls bring other hot girls so I would always hang out with them. I think now the lines are pretty fairly drawn that we're just friends. I'm not interested in being more than friends with them, (now, they do have other girlfriends which Im trying to bang, but thats a different story)

Thing is, these girls are ALWAYS down to hang out; even more so than my guy friends. It's like, no matter what day or time I hit them up, they're always down to go drinking, eating, etc.

Wtf?

Am I missing something here?
Women love male attention.
 

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Women are in general more geared towards being social than men are. They make time to be social more often whereas men may more often prioritize doing something that doesn't involve anyone else.

This is of course in general and should be taken as such, exceptions exist.
 

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Women love male attention.
Women love attention from men they deem high value. The pimply faced fat kid that smells like week old @$$ giving them attention makes them cringe.
 

BeExcellent

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Keep building your social circle as you have been doing. Doing so will repay you with social proof and becoming known as cool in your circles. It will also get you super calibrated and dialed into your interactions with women and the subtlety of communication women express. This all benefits you...just be careful about women mooching off you. Avoid that.

It will also translate to higher value among women you run into professionally. If you are hanging and making friends in the industry circles you are going to have more moxy because socially you have to be more adroit with the industry chicks (who get hit on constantly) than the women in your professional setting. This benefits you.

How’s it going with the women you actually have interest in?

One of the benefits of having female friends is people who will get you out socially and get you around other women...as you are finding.

Hope you are well...Cheers!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Robert28

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Y’all can have my share of women friends. They’ve never been beneficial to me, never been worth my time. I’m glad other guys have success with it though, but I never have and have no interest in trying to have success with it. Sunk cost fallacy for me.
 

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So I been hitting the town last few months pretty regularly, building my contacts and making new friends. There's a few girls which I've met along the way; now they're pretty attractive, but Im not attracted to them myself. But, hot girls bring other hot girls so I would always hang out with them. I think now the lines are pretty fairly drawn that we're just friends. I'm not interested in being more than friends with them, (now, they do have other girlfriends which Im trying to bang, but thats a different story)

Thing is, these girls are ALWAYS down to hang out; even more so than my guy friends. It's like, no matter what day or time I hit them up, they're always down to go drinking, eating, etc.

Wtf?

Am I missing something here?
If you are attractive in their eyes and you state you only want to be friends, you have just presented yourself as a challenge. Women love a guy who is a challenge. They love to chase.

Women want what they can't have. They want what you won't give them even more. So if you are stating that you will only be friends and they.are interested in more than friendship they are literally now your orbiters.
 
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