"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do girls have their own version of "game"?

flint

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So I only started my journal a week ago and I've noticed with the last 2 sets I've been working on they both had similar reactions. The pattern goes as follows:

Flint: I like to break chops, not just with girls, guys too. So I'll bust on them, say things like "You're moving too fast" or "If you're lucky we'll chill again", just stuff to break chops.

Girl: First time we chill is very receptive, laughing, lots of Kino, (kiss closed the first of these two first night we chilled).


2nd Meeting: All of the sudden I'll chill with them and they're MUCH quicker on their feet. As in if I bust on them, they'll bust on me back, almost like they're more prepared than the first time. It's almost like they're playing my game back with me. They're still chilling with me so it's not disinterest I guess but it's odd.

I think you guys refer to this phenonon as sh*t tests.


So my question is do you think girls will act differently towards you and almost adjust their "game" or reactions to you after they've hung out with you a couple of times?

And if they're all of the sudden giving you these sh*t tests and giving it back to you should you still just act as you've been acting or chill out a little bit?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's called "mirroring." This is when people adapt their body language and mannerisms in order to parallel yours. This can happen with conversation as well.

It sounds like you are trying to gain some sort of an upper hand or manipulate these girls. At this point, I would be screening these girls to see if we had anything in common if you are interested in a relationship.
 

ThatMysteriousGuy

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flint said:
So I only started my journal a week ago and I've noticed with the last 2 sets I've been working on they both had similar reactions. The pattern goes as follows:

Flint: I like to break chops, not just with girls, guys too. So I'll bust on them, say things like "You're moving too fast" or "If you're lucky we'll chill again", just stuff to break chops.

Girl: First time we chill is very receptive, laughing, lots of Kino, (kiss closed the first of these two first night we chilled).

2nd Meeting: All of the sudden I'll chill with them and they're MUCH quicker on their feet. As in if I bust on them, they'll bust on me back, almost like they're more prepared than the first time. It's almost like they're playing my game back with me. They're still chilling with me so it's not disinterest I guess but it's odd.

I think you guys refer to this phenonon as sh*t tests.

So my question is do you think girls will act differently towards you and almost adjust their "game" or reactions to you after they've hung out with you a couple of times?

And if they're all of the sudden giving you these sh*t tests and giving it back to you should you still just act as you've been acting or chill out a little bit?
Those aren't shait tests, you established rapport and they like you. That's why they're copying you, they're not actually thinking about it, they're just enjoying it. You've pulled them into the reality you have been displaying. Good job.

They'll be maneuvering to see who can "get" you so relax, work on increasing interest in other ways over a period of time, and figure out which one you want.
 

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Female game is the Art of Fake Indifference. Our game is to diesel through it, find out if it's real, and if she's a b!tch or disinterested, next her little ass.
 

zekko

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It's called "mirroring." This is when people adapt their body language and mannerisms in order to parallel yours. This can happen with conversation as well.
I agree with this. First off, you've sucked them into your reality and set a playful mood. Second, they're comfortable with you now, so they're teasing you back. Now that the OP mentions it, you wouldn't know it to read this forum, but girls tease too.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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londonzen

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yes jamaican and latina girls are both direct and will quite actively hunt you out and adjust to how you act around them
 
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