"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do girls have their own version of "game"?

flint

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So I only started my journal a week ago and I've noticed with the last 2 sets I've been working on they both had similar reactions. The pattern goes as follows:

Flint: I like to break chops, not just with girls, guys too. So I'll bust on them, say things like "You're moving too fast" or "If you're lucky we'll chill again", just stuff to break chops.

Girl: First time we chill is very receptive, laughing, lots of Kino, (kiss closed the first of these two first night we chilled).


2nd Meeting: All of the sudden I'll chill with them and they're MUCH quicker on their feet. As in if I bust on them, they'll bust on me back, almost like they're more prepared than the first time. It's almost like they're playing my game back with me. They're still chilling with me so it's not disinterest I guess but it's odd.

I think you guys refer to this phenonon as sh*t tests.


So my question is do you think girls will act differently towards you and almost adjust their "game" or reactions to you after they've hung out with you a couple of times?

And if they're all of the sudden giving you these sh*t tests and giving it back to you should you still just act as you've been acting or chill out a little bit?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's called "mirroring." This is when people adapt their body language and mannerisms in order to parallel yours. This can happen with conversation as well.

It sounds like you are trying to gain some sort of an upper hand or manipulate these girls. At this point, I would be screening these girls to see if we had anything in common if you are interested in a relationship.
 

ThatMysteriousGuy

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flint said:
So I only started my journal a week ago and I've noticed with the last 2 sets I've been working on they both had similar reactions. The pattern goes as follows:

Flint: I like to break chops, not just with girls, guys too. So I'll bust on them, say things like "You're moving too fast" or "If you're lucky we'll chill again", just stuff to break chops.

Girl: First time we chill is very receptive, laughing, lots of Kino, (kiss closed the first of these two first night we chilled).

2nd Meeting: All of the sudden I'll chill with them and they're MUCH quicker on their feet. As in if I bust on them, they'll bust on me back, almost like they're more prepared than the first time. It's almost like they're playing my game back with me. They're still chilling with me so it's not disinterest I guess but it's odd.

I think you guys refer to this phenonon as sh*t tests.

So my question is do you think girls will act differently towards you and almost adjust their "game" or reactions to you after they've hung out with you a couple of times?

And if they're all of the sudden giving you these sh*t tests and giving it back to you should you still just act as you've been acting or chill out a little bit?
Those aren't shait tests, you established rapport and they like you. That's why they're copying you, they're not actually thinking about it, they're just enjoying it. You've pulled them into the reality you have been displaying. Good job.

They'll be maneuvering to see who can "get" you so relax, work on increasing interest in other ways over a period of time, and figure out which one you want.
 

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Female game is the Art of Fake Indifference. Our game is to diesel through it, find out if it's real, and if she's a b!tch or disinterested, next her little ass.
 

zekko

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It's called "mirroring." This is when people adapt their body language and mannerisms in order to parallel yours. This can happen with conversation as well.
I agree with this. First off, you've sucked them into your reality and set a playful mood. Second, they're comfortable with you now, so they're teasing you back. Now that the OP mentions it, you wouldn't know it to read this forum, but girls tease too.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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londonzen

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yes jamaican and latina girls are both direct and will quite actively hunt you out and adjust to how you act around them
 
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