"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Do girls handle breakups/cease contact better than us

SirFratserlot

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We werent dating, but I was messing around with this girl for like a month in a half. I could tell she really liked me at first, but she started going in to ***** mode and eventually I got drunk ended it with her before before the car started rolling down the hill lol. Basically she told me she really liked me because she thought I was cute, but she wasnt looking for/ready for a relationship. I pretty much called her bull**** and walked away. Its day 6 of no contact and I think about her everyday. She left a lot of her junk in my room and I have two bite mark scars on my neck from her, so I get reminded of her constantly. It seems like I was just spilled milk in her life, and that ive been quickly forgotten. Is this how they usually handle this or are they more emotionally unstable than us.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The simple answer would be Women think with their egos...therefore they "appear" to stay strong...and they use that break up as energy to find their next fix of validation....
 

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Generally ? Yes.

Why ?

Amongst a few other things , because your average girl will always have more orbiters , pretenders and "friends" around her than the average male.

Men who sit around and don't really socialize all that well have a horrible time getting over ex's , NC's , and any other form of emotional trauma. Girls that share those traits suffer the same consequences , but what I'm saying is that it's easier to put a short skirt on and make 10 new friends on your way to the grocery store than the other way around. It's easier to eat when you're being fed , rather then to go hunting yourself , correct ?


But as long as you're maintaining perfect NC with her , she'll get the same feeling from you - that she was just a spilled bottle -. How easy she has it is an average between how attached she was to you , how her social life stands and how big her ego is.


It's a complicated matter to be honest. After going NC for 3 months + my ex told me she feels like I don't even remotely care for her anymore. That's how she perceived the NC , while I was pretty much thinking about her at least once very 1-2 days. On the same note ,this was my first 'forced' NC. With any other girl I NC'ed , never thought about it again and was perfectly happy.
 

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j0504s said:
The simple answer would be Women think with their egos...therefore they "appear" to stay strong...and they use that break up as energy to find their next fix of validation....
I dont think this girl can get a better looking guy than me lol, and I broke it off with her before she started monkey branching. I was pretty much her branch from her ex. She does keep her exes as orbiters though and they whiteknight too. You're right zion, her orbiters are probably fulfilling their duties for her. She had an orbiter trying to white knight her while I was talking to her about ending things.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
You're right zion, her orbiters are probably fulfilling their duties for her. She had an orbiter trying to white knight her while I was talking to her about ending things.
A lot easier to forget about the last batter when there's another one stepping right up to the plate.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SirFratserlot

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zekko said:
A lot easier to forget about the last batter when there's another one stepping right up to the plate.
Shes not that pretty. Plus she was still showing signs of interest and shiz, but she wasnt obsessing over me like she used to.
 
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