"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do Faithful Girls Exist Anymore?

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Do they?

Im in college (2nd year) so I know theres gunna be hoes roaming all over the place, but lately Ive wanted to just settle down with ONE chick I can call my own.

But it seems that all girls in my school just want to hook up and on to the next guy.

Example: Recently I got with this chick that has been sweating me for some time, I was going to fucc her but didn't have a condom, I decided to see if she'll let me fucc anyway, I tried and she resisted saying "not on the first night" I tried later after taking off her top and suckin on her titties, still no dice, she says "bad things will happen".

Either way it was a nice lil hook up and I felt there was something there. She kissed me and flirted with me next 2 days, but then I hear she went to a party and was flirting with dam near everyone there including my roommate who told me she flirted with him (most likely she was drunk, but still). It made me wonder, what if some dude at that party got with her that night?

Long story short I stopped contacting her ever since and been doing my own thing but it still worries me that I felt it coulda been more and now I actually want a girl, just one. But so many girls here are with you one day, then the next day their with some other dude, it just starts to wear on you after a while.

I also wanna know what it means when she said "not on the first night" and "bad things will happen".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Jmac said:
I also wanna know what it means when she said "not on the first night" and "bad things will happen".
They only say that to make em sound less of a slut because girls value their social status that much, trust me been there done that and the girl turned out to be a hoe afterwards made me really believed she wasn't like the rest for a short term but still maybe there are faithful girls out there maybe there ain't I'm still young so I can't give you a answer to that part I haven't seen em all yet
 

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I was talking to a chick who was telling me about her married friend who is cheating on her husband who works in the mines for three weeks at a time.
I was saying how fvcked up that was and she said she doesn't blame her if the guy is gone for so long at a time.
I said WTF? He's out their slaving his arse off to provide for her and she repays him by riding some other guy's c0ck?
She tried to backtrack but I still couldn't believe she was siding with the slore.
They're everywhere, OP. Just hope you can find one who can keep her legs closed if you have to leave her alone for more than five minutes...
 

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What a person is depends not only on how that person is built but also from the stimuli she receives.

The same girl in the 90s who had a limited exposure to men and social network which was a faithful wife would probably be longer such now.

Any decent girl (and undecent as well) gets bombarded from attention anywhere anytime, through facebook, her iphone or even cold approaches.

Doesnt matter how cool you are, there is always someone cooler than you and given the free pass that society,law and media give to female hypergamy she has very few obstacles and many incentives.

It's not only a matter of the girls themselves but mostly the surrounding setting.

If they were to tell you that you are a god and whorship you as such, you would probably realize that there is nothing wrong in walking naked and expecting food and women to be given to you, you would end up believing them.
 

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Greasy Pig said:
I was talking to a chick who was telling me about her married friend who is cheating on her husband who works in the mines for three weeks at a time.
I was saying how fvcked up that was and she said she doesn't blame her if the guy is gone for so long at a time.
I said WTF? He's out their slaving his arse off to provide for her and she repays him by riding some other guy's c0ck?
She tried to backtrack but I still couldn't believe she was siding with the slore.
They're everywhere, OP. Just hope you can find one who can keep her legs closed if you have to leave her alone for more than five minutes...
Yeah, this is exactly the kind of stuff that pisses me off. Not just the fact that they're cheating, but the fact they rationalize to themselves that it's perfectly "ok". Sickening.

To the OP: Yeah, girls like that do exist, but few and far between. The hard truth is that nearly all girls are amoral. All they really care about is how you make them feel.

Gone for the weekend and she starts feeling lonely? Well, you aren't there to hold her and keep her warm, so it's okay to find someone else who will.

She suspects you of cheating? You obviously don't love her, so it's okay for her to do the "same thing".

She's out with her girlfriends, drunk, and is getting hit on by a handsome guy.. Well, you aren't there, and the other guy is making her FEEL something, so it's okay. It'll only be one time anyway.

She's talking to her EX? Hmm.. he made her feel something before, what's to stop it from happening again?

These women can do no wrong, and even if they do.. they simply rationalize their behavior while their girlfriends support and cheer them on. It really all depends on how they "feel" that moment, or rather, WHO is making her feel that.

^ That's typical women ideology in a nutshell.

You want a good girl? Look out for the red flags. And don't date party/club girls under any circumstances.

You're still young man, and everyone wants to live the college experience. I think settling down would be stupid. Just focus on your education and enjoy yourself for now. That's my thoughts.

-Scars
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Q. "Do Faithful Girls Exist Anymore?"

A. Yes, they are usually the girls that you aren't into.
 

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I've been askin myself the same question lately, I have noticed that a lot of girls I thought would never cheat cheated, or were open to cheating, either with me or some other dude. Though I remembered one of my female friends, though she isn't as femine as most of the girls, but she isn't acting like a dude either. Well from what I observed on her I see that she wouldn't cheat, she is in control of her emotions and herself unlike most girls. But she's bascally the only one that I can think of now from all the girls I know.

I know one other girl, she's been with her boyfriend for more than four years, never heared about her cheating, though I can't be sure. She's my age, so very young and young girls usually cheat. A lot of guys find her attractive so she gets a lot of attention from guys.

I think that there are faithful girls, they are just very rare.
 

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Just came in here to say that as a female, I have discovered that I am kind of rare in the sense that I am extremely faithful. I have actually never gone past kissing with any guy unless it's established that we are in an official relationship. And as a result, my "number" is extremely low for my age. I've been made fun of by other girls and been called a prude, but I honestly don't care.

But I've got a lot of female friends and it actually shocks me a bit at how far they will go on the first date, or even BEFORE a first date. (Like wow, a guy tells you that you are pretty and flirts with you and you spread your legs THAT easily?)

So, to answer your question: Yes. Faithful girls do exist. Just like faithful guys do exist.

Thing is, the faithful girls are the ones that really want to have an emotional connection in place before the physical connection starts. I can't speak for all girls, but the ones that want to be in a serious monogamous relationship want to feel like the guy is someone they can connect with, is a good friend, and makes them feel safe. Those are usually the three requirements. And because that's how they think they are also not overtly sexual by nature. They will "turn it on" for the right guy but only when certain requirements are met. This means that they will tend to dress a little more modestly and be less promiscuous. If they are at a party where other girls are drunk and taking their shirts off and dancing, they are the ones that will keep their shirts on. (Because they feel that the only guy that should see that much of their skin should be their boyfriend, not every guy in the room)

So the guys in here are right, they are faithful but they are also the ones you will not be initially attracted to, mainly because of how they carry themselves + how they dress and act.
 

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enjoy banging around in your college years. you will have plenty of time to find a faithful girl later down the road.
 

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Yeah, they sure exist. But those are the boring ones that we NEXT 98% of the time LOL. The fun ones that'll blow you on the second date (the fun ones) will most likely get bored of you at one point or another and cheat.

You should expect that. If it doesn't happen, bonus points to you.

As for the faithful ones; be careful what you wish for. The fun factor definitely will plummet. Just my observation.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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We are intelligent, but still animals by nature. Look in the animal kingdom...rare are the ones that mate for life...
 

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Few and far between.. Welcome to the 21 century fellas :)

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In short, yes.

In long form, I have yet to date a girl that I was trying to have a relationship with that cheated on me. There were times where I hooked up with girls who may or may not have been hooking up with other people, but it was understood from the beginning that neither one of us was looking to be serious with each other.

You have to find a girl that's relationship-minded. If she has it in her head that she's not ready to settle down yet, or if she finds that she doesn't have a high interest in you, she's not going to be faithful. On the other hand, I've had girls who I haven't talked to in years that haven't banged anyone else 'cause they're waiting for me to get back to 'em. Once you've got 'em you've got 'em, but only if they REALLY like you.
 

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You guys have good points, there are few faithful girls and yea the ones that Im not attracted to. I was on this site when I was in high school (11th & 12th grade) it changed me. I started acting more alpha following up into college.

Last year I was running around messing with different girls because this was a new setting for me, all new girls, I was horny and just wanted to get some ass. Im not trying to make myself look like some kind of player or w.e but there were a few girls that I hurt because of this. But I didn't care I was just all about doing me my mindset was "On to the next one".

Then I come into this year a whole different person more, laid back, care more what people think (idk why), less assertive, and just not what I used to be.
Either way ive still gotten with girls, got #s from some pretty hot chicks, but lately hooking up hasn't been something I wanna do. Sucks to say this but I feel that girl I was with (from the example) kind of played me although I wasn't paying her much attention and talking to other girls on the side, I cant help but get a bit jealous when I hear she's flirting with so and so.


I guess thats the harsh reality of it all, who knows if ill ever get married..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ScottMustaine said:
There are. The one's I know aren't the one's I'm attracted to... though.
This be common. A lot of what people are attracted to ARENT relationship material. Kind of makes you wonder who invented the idea of marriage. We all want hot, exciting, wild, flashy, sexy, etc - when those are all bad traits for committment. I say we're all just animals being trained as humans in a functioning society, 'cause none of this **** makes sense.

Even when we complain about these girls fooling around - those are the same ones we are focusing on - especially because they are this way. No different from girls and bad boys. Love what you hate...

The best thing to do is just accept it, and treat each person based on whichever category they fit into. Too many problems arise when focusing on non-relationship girls with the intent of being in a relationship. Not gonna work out; stop getting attached to these types. Just have fun while it lasts.

Life isnt fair; nobody is perfect; you cant have it all (in one person).
 
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The problem is that even the Hb 5s are acting like the bratty 9s. So if you want a relationship it has to be with someone totally unattractive. By and large.
Pretty much sums up the negativity on this forum.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
The problem is that even the Hb 5s are acting like the bratty 9s. So if you want a relationship it has to be with someone totally unattractive. By and large.
I think its moreso the TYPE of women - as opposed to their attractiveness level. I know what youre talking about, certainly. But, the higher you go in looks - the less likely they are to be relationship material.

Youre still gonna have notties acting like high class ****s, but theyre completely worthless. So, no harm there. I think women (like men) think that being bad is attractive- when its being hot that is. Nobody cares if an average girl has a dog**** personality. You just hate them - in a non-lustful way. More than anything, its being attractive that allows them to be bad - not theyre attractive because theyre bad. You dont see many fat, average guys strutting around and acting arrogant. 'Cause they cant.

A lot of these notties are also delusional, but who cares? They have nothing going for them. Easy to avoid.

But anyway, theres still a lot of cute / attractive nice girls out there. But they tend to be plain, polite, and quiet. Not flashy, arrogant, loud, bratty, etc. They also arent hot. But thats your best bet.
 

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VladPatton said:
Yeah, they sure exist. But those are the boring ones that we NEXT 98% of the time LOL. The fun ones that'll blow you on the second date (the fun ones) will most likely get bored of you at one point or another and cheat.

You should expect that. If it doesn't happen, bonus points to you.

As for the faithful ones; be careful what you wish for. The fun factor definitely will plummet. Just my observation.
That's rep stuff right there. Guys looking for a LTR really need to let these words sink in.
 

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Any woman will cheat if in the right place, at the right time, with the right person.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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