"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Do beards scare away women?

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I spontaneously started letting myself grow a beard. When it was more at the light mustache and goatee stage one girl complimented me on it and added that it made me look "dark". But now it is approaching a full beard. I kinda like it, but I notice bearded men (with the exception of Jesus) are always portrayed and crooks and evildoers in the media. ANd also streetpeople wear beards.

So with all that stigma around it do you think a nicely trimmed beard is a turn off or turn on for women? I'm 24 and my beard oddly coloured compared to my dark hair (its reddish).

Anybody else of good or bad experience growing abeard?

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Billydee

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Shave it unless you are:

Jesus
A poet
A craftsman/woodworker
A musician
A hiker/granola type
An outlaw biker/snowmobiler/cowboy type

or

The "scruffy" member of a boy band.

Probably I'd shave it. Most normal guys with goatees shaved theirs once the whole coffeehouse/grunge thing went out of style. I used to grow a beard in the winter time when in college. And for hiking. I got a few compliments from girls, but if you take a big enough sample, you'll find that most of them don't like it (unless they're really attracted to the above mentioned categories).
 

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Well I'm not Jesus or a woodworker but I am an artist. So maybe I have an excuse. I personally hate goatees, especially without a mustache that dark triangle of hair on peoples chins looks like only one thing. The one thing this website is about getting. . .

anyways since I grew a full beard i'll let it get nice and full over a week or two then probably slowly reduce it to a Don Juan mustache then clean shave. I like to change my appearence frequently anyways.
 

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you're lucky so dont complain

i cant grow a beard cause its not in my genetics, ill prob have to wait a yr or 2 to grow a full goatee.

im still 19, so some of the facial hair hasnt finished sprouting yet,
so thats why i sahve every 2 day UNTIL i can grow full facial hair.

I woudlnt mind leaving facial hair, it reminds you and others that you're a man.

one of my friend leaves a small groomed mustache, but everyone considers him to be in his 30's, but that's also cause he dresses like a bum and does nothing to style his hair. he's actually 19

i think if you dress well, style your hair well, and keep your beard groomed, i think it will work extra to your benefit...if girls dig a guy w/beards. as long as you dont end up looking like a bum like my friend
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dust 2 Dust

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I have a beard and I receive compliments from women all the time. Just keep it short, shampoo it, and shave your neck line.
 

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thanx for the tips, yes i have some friends who can't grow a proper beard, so it does show them up!
 

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I like beards on guys and the clean look is also appealing. :)
 

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Originally posted by DreamyChick
I like beards on guys and the clean look is also appealing. :)
i guess each girl have different tastes
so...which do u find more attractive dreamychick.

go facial hair or clean?
 
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Well I've asked alot of chicks, most think that full on beards are a turn off. I personally change my facial hair every two weeks, I've had it all, goa-tees, moustache, beard, huge sideburns(don't ever grow those burns like that mind you, gay) goat-tee just on the chin, the craig david look. Advice- do what you feel comfortable in. If it's the Jesus look, go that route, if not, then whatever you like...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Vigilante7

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Use common sense

ask girls, which looks better on you

I look good with clean and peach fuzz, but girls prefer clean look 90% of time, so guess which one im doing..........
 

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Either cleanshave or have the 5 oh clock shade.. Don't have beard or whatever, especially at a young age.
 

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I shave it at #2 with a trimmer...so it's more stuble...it just gives you a little manlier look, but you can still see your face. I haven't shaved it all off for over 6 months...i'm afraid to. Might make me look too young. But it's not like I can't grow it back in a week or so. I've gotten curious to see what my face looks without the stuble and when I have, I've been dissapointed. Damn, will I ever be able to go back to clean shaven?
 

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Yeah, I do the 5 o'clock shadow look. I haven't shaved in like over a year. A lot of actors rock the stubble - Colin Ferrel is probably the main one that comes to mind.

I haven't had any complaints yet. I figured it would make the chicks face raw, but they don't seem to mind...;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tkman

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I was reading the paper last night at the library and two chicks were chatting about some guy with a beared. Listen to this:

Chick 1 - Why does he has a bear?
Chick 2- I dont know.
Chick 1- How do you kiss him?
Chick 2- You have to go through the beared first.

Both stated laughing.
 

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Though I tried growing the full beard for that 70s Manhattan look, it didn't work out. Avoid combining a full beard with a polyester suit. You don't wanna look like Funky Flashman from DC comics.
 

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lol
 

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girls love my beard. Just make to

A. Trim it.

B: Shave clear lines to it. No patches this and that place.
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
i guess each girl have different tastes
so...which do u find more attractive dreamychick.

go facial hair or clean?
Hmmm now that I think about it I like to see his face, and the ways his eyes and smile light up. :) But I have crushed on bearded guys but I think I do prefer the clean look.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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