She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
So what could I be doing wrong?Nutz said:Yes.
If you're not getting eye ****ed regularly there's probably something wrong with your walk or overall body language.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
My cousin would tell a girl who wasn't looking at him that she dropped her smile and he would point at the ground and repeat himself until she got the joke. Pretty funny. Anyway you have to try to get their attention someway. Probably best to do when you feeling a hilarious mood. Always play the game like it's a big joke a first. There's always time for seriousness later.:crackup:So what could I be doing wrong?
You probably pissed of the masses (the unattractive ones), but i agree.Crazy Asian said:ur not attractive enough.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
whenever i hear a comment like that i can't help but think of Jay-Z and Beyonce.oakraiderz2 said:You probably pissed of the masses (the unattractive ones), but i agree.
i get EC alot. That reminds me, Theres this chick at work, shes probably 28 or something, shes a HB7 but theres something about her that i find so sexy! anyway, i catch her checking me out alot lol when i walk by her desk, sometimes she definitly gives me the OBVIOUS eye contact. In general, I get EC with smiles, and sometimes a "Hi"...... Damn, now that i really think about it....... i get a sh!t load of EC from females........ I just dont act on it i guess. have my mind on other things.lazikia said:They rarely do with me.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could've written this same thing verbatim. I think I'm probably somewhere in the average range attractive-wise. The women that are attracted to me range from ugly to moderately cute. It's a rare day when anything above a 7 looks my way. I wish I could change that. The thing is for guys, personality and status counts a lot more with women than the other way around. A woman who is good looking can fall in love with a guy that's not so great looking if he's got game and status, like someone pointed out in the Jay-Z example above. But rarely do you see a man falling for an ugly woman because of her status or wealth.Warrior74 said:I don't get hot chics staring, but I do get ugly girls gawking and then trying to play it off like they weren't. I get fat girls who will openly tell me how good I look. Fatties and uglies have nothing to loose. They look because they don't think they can have you anyway. You know...they way you oggle fine women that you're not gonna speak to.
This used to be a big hit on my self esteem...I'd wonder, was I ugly? Is that why these ugly chics would look at me? For the longest I thought that was the case.
Later I came to realise that I'm middle of the road attractive. I'm not a pretty boy, I'm not some uber rugged manly looking dood, I'm not fat (anymore). I don't have any hidieous defects. I dress nice, I stay groomed. I look like a decent catch. I'm a 7.9 on hot or not from back in the day but I look better now and better in person. They stare because they see a good thing, but they know they can never have it. OP, how do you react when you see these girl looking at you?
Why whats wrong are you sick, or handicapped etc? just wonderingKennethJones said:I don't get eye contact because people do not usually see me. I consider myself to be invisible.
When people do stare at me its usually a look of disgust or concern.
Definitely true, no matter how much everyone else says that looks don't matter. They DO. Especially for body language and non verbal communication. Being good looking is important, so is body language etc. but they compliment each other, you can have one without the other but they work so extremely well together. Its almost like magic.Crazy Asian said:ur not attractive enough.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.