"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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do Asian women tend to me more awkward?

nkh78h

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Is it just me, or do Asian women seem to be more socially awkward? From my personal experience, Asians make up the majority of my rejections and encounters that had indicators of disinterest, even though they are a minority of the ladies I've approached.

For example, here are three recent "rejections" (in quotes because I'm not sure whether they were rejecting me per se or whether they were just being awkward, but that's beside the point):

1. August 2008 - I was in college, and there was this Asian girl who seemed to be very good at the piano. I went to compliment her, but she immediately said she had to leave, which she did. I didn't think much of it as I assumed that she had homework, etc.

But when I saw her in the rec room again, she immediately stopped playing and walked away. She was walking very fast, too, as if she was trying to get the hell away from me.

2. Three months ago - there was this intern from Boston that worked in the same building as me. She wasn't that hot, but my friends kept telling me that she could make great friends, so I figured, what the hell.

I tried to make small talk with her, but her responses were always very curt. The last time I talked to her, she absolutely made no response. Even her friend, who is normally much more talkative, also gave me the silent treatment.

3. One week ago - there was this Asian girl (who works in a different building) that I sometimes see on the bus. I tried to talk to her a few weeks ago, but she was on her phone at that time. I saw her again last week, but when I talked to her, she just kept looking at her phone (I'm pretty sure she was not in the middle of a call this time) and not saying a single word to me. It was very awkward to be keep talking her and not getting any response, so I bailed out.

What do you guys think of these situations?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've noticed this too. I think it depends really. Were they first generation Asians? Since you live on the east coast, then I would assume they were. I guess it's a whole different scenerio in California though. There's 5th generation Asians living there and they are much accustomed to the American social lifestyle.
 

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All of these encountered on the west coast, but I'd expect that people would generally behave the same way.

For the record, I'm an Asian myself :p
 

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I think if you are talking about first Gen Asian women, they tend to shy away from interacting if you converse in Eng. I had bad result last night with some mandarin women(I'm Chinese myself). mostly it's their lack of confidence. then on the flip side, there are Chinese women who will swoon at the sight of a white man...ymmv.
 

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In my experience Americanized asians are the biggest hos out there. Quite easy to fyck with the right game and not very faithful. The same with Americanized arab girls.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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OC Speedball

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Yes.

Low confidence. Timid. Shy. They rarely leave their comfort zone. They like to stick to their routine. They all major in biology (at least where I live).

Unless she's Americanized or mixed I stay away from asian girls.
 
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