I have relapsed and gained 26 pounds. It starts by a sugar snack here or there or a cookie because I am working long hours at work. Then those days stack up. Pretty soon people don't respect you anymore and no girls look your way. You are back in the hole you started in. What will I do this time? I will learn to love the pain and know that I can gain as a person if I am fit and energetic. I know that paying the price to get in better shape is worth it to me and the people around me. I am honest as well. I can post the picture of me weighting a SOFT 220 pounds. If you are in the downward spiral know the bottom is not good. You are gross and girls won't like you. You won't like yourself at the end. You will feel like crap. You won't be able to help people. You won't be respected by the sosuave community. Don't relapse to bad eating and not going to the gym. If you are in the downward spiral reach out. Call a mentor....post on sosuave. ASK FOR HELP.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Do anything not to relapse. ASK FOR HELP
- Thread starter Demonpenz
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
marmel75
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First thing you need to do is stop making excuses. I work 12 hour days 5 days a week and I train 4-5 days a week and prep all my food by myself.
You want a snack, take some veggies, carrot sticks/broccoli/celery, etc or a piece of fruit. Fruit has sugar but also many other cofactors and vitamins to aid with this. Studies show it actually helps improve blood sugar regulation, while unnatural sugary foods do the opposite.
Here is a very easy snack/meal you can make in under 5 minutes and can eat a few times a day until you decide you want to take this seriously and make it a priority.
1 cup of steel cut oats
1.5 scoop of whey protein(I prefer plant based protein personally, but whey is OK if it doesn't bloat you)
1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon(blood sugar regulation)
1 sliced apple or 1/2 cup blueberries
1 cup vanilla almond/coconut milk
1.5 tablespoon olive oil/flaxseed oil(real olive oil)
This will provide roughly 75g of carbs, 45g protein, and 26g of fat, which are near perfect ratios of macros, and it tastes delicious to boot...
Olive oil also has a unique benefit of stimulating catchecholines that helps reduce fat stores in the body by causing their release into the bloodstream. It has a slimming effect on the body, I used to literally drink olive oil to great effect.
You want a snack, take some veggies, carrot sticks/broccoli/celery, etc or a piece of fruit. Fruit has sugar but also many other cofactors and vitamins to aid with this. Studies show it actually helps improve blood sugar regulation, while unnatural sugary foods do the opposite.
Here is a very easy snack/meal you can make in under 5 minutes and can eat a few times a day until you decide you want to take this seriously and make it a priority.
1 cup of steel cut oats
1.5 scoop of whey protein(I prefer plant based protein personally, but whey is OK if it doesn't bloat you)
1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon(blood sugar regulation)
1 sliced apple or 1/2 cup blueberries
1 cup vanilla almond/coconut milk
1.5 tablespoon olive oil/flaxseed oil(real olive oil)
This will provide roughly 75g of carbs, 45g protein, and 26g of fat, which are near perfect ratios of macros, and it tastes delicious to boot...
Olive oil also has a unique benefit of stimulating catchecholines that helps reduce fat stores in the body by causing their release into the bloodstream. It has a slimming effect on the body, I used to literally drink olive oil to great effect.
Tictac
Banned
No, you wouldn't 'do anything', because you haven't.
Deal with that first.
Deal with that first.
Ronaldo7
Master Don Juan
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You actually quit on this? After working so hard and documenting your progress? Was it not bad enough when you went out with Plutoman and your fat @ss was always left hanging? You had to settle with the land whales every single time. It really does show you who the weak are. Always will be weak.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
2 weeks tomorrow will be the day I went lo-carb. Clothes fitting better again and starting to feel difference. I am not as hungry as I was when I was eating chocolate and donuts. Lots of the fat that I had were actually in my back. I can feel my back muscles again.
I was always a person that blamed no girls in my life was due to life. I didn't go out and I was fat. I had no game. I worked hard day in and day out to change that. It was hard work..it was worth it and it saved my life.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.