"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Do any of you actually have the balls to do this?

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Gamers lend support to widow of heroic developer

Brian Wood spent his life thrilling millions of faceless gamers, but his last moment was spent saving the lives of those he loved most.

Wood, a 33 year-old lead designer at popular game developer Relic Entertainment, was on his way back to his Washington home when his wagon was struck by an oncoming Chevy Blazer being driven by a 21 year-old woman believed to be driving under the influence. With his pregnant wife Erin in the passenger seat, Wood swerved his car to put himself directly in the path of the oncoming SUV -- a decision that ultimately cost him his life, but protected his wife and unborn child from harm. Two other passengers riding in the backseat of the Blazer were also killed.

"All the policeman say that if we had hit the car head-on all of us would be dead," Erin Wood told The Province. "At the very last second (Brian) braked really hard and turned right so that he would be put in the path of the SUV and not me and the baby, and that is the only thing that saved us both."

"He was always sacrificing himself for me and the baby," she added.

But while Wood's impossibly brave act left a permanent void in the life of Erin Wood, the same people who Brian strived to please with his work have returned the favor with a striking show of support for his bereaved widow.

A memorial trust was set up within days of the accident. Countless game developers, journalists and fans posted links on Twitter and Facebook, leading to literally thousands of supportive comments, messages and financial donations, prompting Wood to send an open letter to the gaming community to popular game blog Kotaku.

"Brian always told me about how close-knit and wonderful the video game community was, but I had no idea until this tragedy just how special a group it really is," she writes. "From all the articles and comments, to the emails and donations, I am simply stunned and so touched by the love, kindness, and generosity shown to me and my family."

At the time of his death, Brian Wood was working on Company of Heroes Online, a free-to-play version of Relic’s award-winning strategy game. It's currently in open beta-test.

To help Erin, please visit the Brian Wood Memorial Trust.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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As a father I would have done the same thing for my kid. Once when my daughter was 2 she jumped in the pool and couldn't swim, her aunt wasn't watching her like she was supposed to, I just happened to come out to the pool to check on them and saw her go under, I dove in without thinking. In those situations, you don't think, you act. That's how a man lives and how a man dies for his children. I got nothing but respect for the guy, that's a good death.
 

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It's a natural reaction to swerve away from an oncoming car. It's not really known what his thought process was other than trying to avoid the oncoming vehicle. People tend to place virtues on the deceased and put a positive spin on a tragedy. Also I suspect there is an element of women and children first in this story. I'm not saying it's wrong so much that it is attribution more than fact.
 

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samspade said:
To do which - swerve our car or donate money to a memorial trust? I assume you're referring to the former.

It's not really a question of having the "balls" to do it. Parental investment exists in fathers as well as mothers.



This is to be commended if true. But how does the reporter know the father wasn't miserable and looking for a way out of living with his nagging wife and spoiled brat kid? How do they know he knew what he was doing at all when he attempted to dodge the oncoming car?
He does not have a spoiled brat kid....considering his child is not born.
 

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This is why you as a male prepare for this by buying an SUV that is so big, heavy and monstrous that everyone else dies in an accident except for you and your family. Its the American way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Duffdog said:
This is why you as a male prepare for this by buying an SUV that is so big, heavy and monstrous that everyone else dies in an accident except for you and your family. Its the American way.
And pray that your *bigger than sh1t* SUV does not attract an 18 wheeler on the interstate..
 

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Duffdog said:
This is why you as a male prepare for this by buying an SUV that is so big, heavy and monstrous that everyone else dies in an accident except for you and your family. Its the American way.
LOL you got me laughing here so hard - can't stop!!!
 

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Nope, don't have the balls to end up married with kids.
 
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