Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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do any of have mental disorders even if u dont plz read this post

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there is a huge that affects my game its the fact that i A.D.H.D a nonverbal learning disorder(mostly to do with numbers but in weird it sometimes has advantages.. i can often speak well but can hardly read numbers off a clock) and dysgraphia (meaning i can barely write... its illegible and often missing words and letters in words and even affects my typing)

i by no mean consider myself retarded i auctually think im fairly enlightened
but i want to if any you guys have similiar problems or advice how deal with this

p.s i dont need any medical advice i no pretty much everything there is to no
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why not find an A.D.H.D. (or whatever) forum or similar resource? A place like that would be better equipped to handle whatever it is you think you have.
 

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I also have a non-verbal learning thing. I don't think I have a.d.h.d though. Its funny you talk about the writing thing,as I have always had poor handwriting. I myself am also not retarded or anything like that. I have always had problems with math as well. Well,I am currently taking ritalin,that has helped. Focus more that is,game,well,not so much....
 

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PrinceBeavis said:
Why not find an A.D.H.D. (or whatever) forum or similar resource? A place like that would be better equipped to handle whatever it is you think you have.
They won't be able to help him with DJing of course. Unless this thread wasn't about DJing with ADHD....
 

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Getting medical advice off random strangers on the net is illadvisable from my viewpoint. Even if we wanted to truly help, I seriously doubt many have the knowledge to do so. Then consider how many medical professionals with the right credentials on this site happen to actually see your post and respond. Not good odds at all my friend. I suggest making an appointment with your GP to get a referal.

These problems are bigger than trying to get women to realize you're pork sword is the ride of a lifetime.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Practically half my friends have ADHD, including my best friend and he's no slouch in DJ department.
 

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add is the not real problem it more like how do i avoid commin across as stupid when i cant type something on msn or when i cant read the hands on a clock or when someone cant read somethin i write i really resent being called stupid i have disorder it makes wonna kick some ass especailly because i auctually have a slightly above i.q
 

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I know a guy with A.D.H.D and at the age of 15 he has had more girls than most people will have in their lifetime.

The thing that struck me when talking to him was how comfortable he was with it and I think that is the best way to go, you can't try hiding it forever because things are gonna happen and it's best to just get it out in the open early on.

This guy I know is very funny and he turns mistakes he makes into laughs all the time, If people say you are stupid or whatever either prove them wrong or completely blank them, it's a million times better than constantly worrying about it :up:
 

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hell695 said:
there is a huge that affects my game its the fact that i A.D.H.D a nonverbal learning disorder(mostly to do with numbers but in weird it sometimes has advantages.. i can often speak well but can hardly read numbers off a clock) and dysgraphia (meaning i can barely write... its illegible and often missing words and letters in words and even affects my typing)

i by no mean consider myself retarded i auctually think im fairly enlightened
but i want to if any you guys have similiar problems or advice how deal with this

p.s i dont need any medical advice i no pretty much everything there is to no
my best friend has this, and if anythign it makes him really carefree hes pretty good with the ladies :p when he was younger her got prescribed some pills now hes not takign them anymore

as for myself I used to have social anxiety disorder, got over it by my own means and also cause Im ****ign hot
 

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dude i have it a.d.d and a.d.h.d and really i don't think they're that bad, and like what grey fox said his friend does about making mistakes and then making them funny i do that a lot and so most people know me for my sense of humor, so when u do make a mistake or something don't get shy or scared just make the most of it and make try to make it funny
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have adhd, and if anything, it is misunderstood by just about everyone; but no one should think your retarded just because of learning disorders. i have a friend with dyslexia and adhd and he is one of the smartest people i know (excluding myself ha!).

the best thing you can do is make a joke of it (ie what are you talking about? i can spel reel gud.) or with your trouble with numbers (what time is it? you: i got this, eleventy oclock). these jokes suck, but you get the picture : ).


explain to your friends about it (then make the stupid jokes), you arent a retard, there are just some connections your brain can't make. learning disabilities are tough to deal with, i feel you.
 
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