"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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do any of have mental disorders even if u dont plz read this post

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there is a huge that affects my game its the fact that i A.D.H.D a nonverbal learning disorder(mostly to do with numbers but in weird it sometimes has advantages.. i can often speak well but can hardly read numbers off a clock) and dysgraphia (meaning i can barely write... its illegible and often missing words and letters in words and even affects my typing)

i by no mean consider myself retarded i auctually think im fairly enlightened
but i want to if any you guys have similiar problems or advice how deal with this

p.s i dont need any medical advice i no pretty much everything there is to no
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why not find an A.D.H.D. (or whatever) forum or similar resource? A place like that would be better equipped to handle whatever it is you think you have.
 

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I also have a non-verbal learning thing. I don't think I have a.d.h.d though. Its funny you talk about the writing thing,as I have always had poor handwriting. I myself am also not retarded or anything like that. I have always had problems with math as well. Well,I am currently taking ritalin,that has helped. Focus more that is,game,well,not so much....
 

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PrinceBeavis said:
Why not find an A.D.H.D. (or whatever) forum or similar resource? A place like that would be better equipped to handle whatever it is you think you have.
They won't be able to help him with DJing of course. Unless this thread wasn't about DJing with ADHD....
 

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Getting medical advice off random strangers on the net is illadvisable from my viewpoint. Even if we wanted to truly help, I seriously doubt many have the knowledge to do so. Then consider how many medical professionals with the right credentials on this site happen to actually see your post and respond. Not good odds at all my friend. I suggest making an appointment with your GP to get a referal.

These problems are bigger than trying to get women to realize you're pork sword is the ride of a lifetime.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Practically half my friends have ADHD, including my best friend and he's no slouch in DJ department.
 

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add is the not real problem it more like how do i avoid commin across as stupid when i cant type something on msn or when i cant read the hands on a clock or when someone cant read somethin i write i really resent being called stupid i have disorder it makes wonna kick some ass especailly because i auctually have a slightly above i.q
 

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I know a guy with A.D.H.D and at the age of 15 he has had more girls than most people will have in their lifetime.

The thing that struck me when talking to him was how comfortable he was with it and I think that is the best way to go, you can't try hiding it forever because things are gonna happen and it's best to just get it out in the open early on.

This guy I know is very funny and he turns mistakes he makes into laughs all the time, If people say you are stupid or whatever either prove them wrong or completely blank them, it's a million times better than constantly worrying about it :up:
 

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hell695 said:
there is a huge that affects my game its the fact that i A.D.H.D a nonverbal learning disorder(mostly to do with numbers but in weird it sometimes has advantages.. i can often speak well but can hardly read numbers off a clock) and dysgraphia (meaning i can barely write... its illegible and often missing words and letters in words and even affects my typing)

i by no mean consider myself retarded i auctually think im fairly enlightened
but i want to if any you guys have similiar problems or advice how deal with this

p.s i dont need any medical advice i no pretty much everything there is to no
my best friend has this, and if anythign it makes him really carefree hes pretty good with the ladies :p when he was younger her got prescribed some pills now hes not takign them anymore

as for myself I used to have social anxiety disorder, got over it by my own means and also cause Im ****ign hot
 

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dude i have it a.d.d and a.d.h.d and really i don't think they're that bad, and like what grey fox said his friend does about making mistakes and then making them funny i do that a lot and so most people know me for my sense of humor, so when u do make a mistake or something don't get shy or scared just make the most of it and make try to make it funny
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have adhd, and if anything, it is misunderstood by just about everyone; but no one should think your retarded just because of learning disorders. i have a friend with dyslexia and adhd and he is one of the smartest people i know (excluding myself ha!).

the best thing you can do is make a joke of it (ie what are you talking about? i can spel reel gud.) or with your trouble with numbers (what time is it? you: i got this, eleventy oclock). these jokes suck, but you get the picture : ).


explain to your friends about it (then make the stupid jokes), you arent a retard, there are just some connections your brain can't make. learning disabilities are tough to deal with, i feel you.
 
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