DMs. Now what?

[nicksaiz65]

I’ll start by saying I don’t really know what I’m doing when it comes to DMs. I was having a conversation with Young OG about this too.

I had a warm introduction given to me by a mutual friend. As a warm approach, I should have a better success rate than a plain Cold Approach.

I just don’t know how to DM Slide! I’ll get her number at the end of the interaction. But do I have a whole conversation with her? How do I do that without giving off a friendly vibe? Do I start flirting? Do I just set a date instantly? How do I come across as an Alpha Male? And then what do I do from there?

Essentially, I have no idea what I’m doing. Wanna help me fill in the blanks, SS?

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[Glassguy]

I turn Facebook into Fvckbook. Its literally the easiest platform for getting laid.

1.) I never give them a compliment so early on in reference to their looks. Just dont.
2.) Use your mutual friends (the ones that you actually know), things that you see in her pics, etc as conversation tools. It shrinks the awkwardness of 2 strangers in a conversation.
3.) I always ask a question and there is a reason for it. If she is paying attention to my message, she will see the question and make sure to respond to it. It also gives her the chance to ask me a question. Since you really didnt ask a question there was no need for her to respond yet she did.

Honestly, if a woman is sexually attracted to you, just sending a simple "Hey" will do the trick. Dont feel as if you have to sell yourself but establishing some quick rapport through your mutual friend is totally fine.

 

[nicksaiz65]

I turn Facebook into Fvckbook. Its literally the easiest platform for getting laid.

1.) I never give them a compliment so early on in reference to their looks. Just dont.
2.) Use your mutual friends (the ones that you actually know), things that you see in her pics, etc as conversation tools. It shrinks the awkwardness of 2 strangers in a conversation.
3.) I always ask a question and there is a reason for it. If she is paying attention to my message, she will see the question and make sure to respond to it. It also gives her the chance to ask me a question. Since you really didnt ask a question there was no need for her to respond yet she did.

Honestly, if a woman is sexually attracted to you, just sending a simple "Hey" will do the trick. Dont feel as if you have to sell yourself but establishing some quick rapport through your mutual friend is totally fine.

Thanks for the advice dude. Mind if I ask a few more questions?

1.) Yeah, I’ve heard it’s not good to compliment a woman on her looks so early on. What could I do instead though?
2.) Okay, so it is good to start a conversation and flirt a bit before getting her number. About how long should this conversation be and how can I come off as an Alpha Male trying to get her on a date instead of just a friend?
3.) I guess from there just text her, take her on dates, and eventually escalate to sex right?

 

[Glassguy]

1.) if you were out at a club and approached a chick, would you immediately tell her she was cute? I hope not. By approaching her she already knows that you have interest in her. You dont have to state it by giving her immediate compliments. Compliments are something that she should earn over time for doing things for YOU.
Instead you would just approach and engage in conversation and play it cool. When texting, fb messaging, etc., the initial message from you is the approach. That is why there is not a need for immediate compliments to covertly show her your intent. She already knows.

2.) I am not sure that I really "flirt" when I am messaging a new chick. As I said above, my intent is already shown by messaging her. I more or less play it cool with some quick messages about something I saw in her profile that I also like doing, a close mutual friend, etc. I dont try to be a "funny guy" or anything else. Its just chit chat. I play it cool. The guy selling new Bentleys doesnt have to be great car salesman or pushy. The damn thing will sell itself. All you have to do is engage the customer and nature will take its course. The same can be said when you start messaging a woman.

This is the important part- Just because I message a chick and we have a quick convo doesnt mean that I am going to ask her out. I am not selling myself to her I more so screening her to see if she is engaging in the conversation and deciding if I want to go out with her. Essentially if she doesnt seem excited to be messaging me I will let the convo die off and its up to her to pick it back up later. Make them invest. It cant be all you doing the initiating. She must show interest too.

You cant come across as an "alpha male". However, you can come across as a guy who doesnt act thirsty which covertly tells her "I approached you because I am attracted to you. But I have other options so I am going to see if we are semi compatible before I make a move to invest my important time in taking you out on a date".

3.) IF......IF....IF.....after some messaging back and forth I feel as if she offers more than surface attraction AND she is very much engaged and enthusiastic about messaging me (as in she asks questions, SHE gives compliments, etc) I will simply say "I have to run but I am going to such and such place this Thursday evening for drinks and darts (or whatever). Why dont you join and we can continue this conversation then".

Thats it. At that point she says "Sure sounds great. What time?".....or she says "I am busy then but when are you free this weekend?" and counter offers.

If she says "I have to check my schedule", "I will let you know", etc., I will simply PULL BACK the offer......."No problem. If you are that busy then lets not worry about it and maybe we will bump into each other later down the road and grab that drink then". Thats it. Leave it open ended and walk away.

Attractive women (Single or not) get tons of messages on FB, IG, etc. Almost ALL guys will chase. Not Glassguy. If I get to the point that I make an offer and she doesnt accept it, I will take it away without burning the bridge and walk. This will only increase her interest and attraction if in fact she is somewhat interested and attracted to me. If she is not, oh well. But she may see me as a guy with options and think "Maybe I should hang out with him. There must be something I am missed with this guy because he doesnt act like all of these other thirsty dudes" and she might hit me back up.

But either way, its ok. I take the shot to make the shot. But I am also selective of my shots.

Thats the way I do it. Is it the best way? Probably not for everyone, but it certainly works for me.

 

[nicksaiz65]

1.) if you were out at a club and approached a chick, would you immediately tell her she was cute? I hope not. By approaching her she already knows that you have interest in her. You dont have to state it by giving her immediate compliments. Compliments are something that she should earn over time for doing things for YOU.
Instead you would just approach and engage in conversation and play it cool. When texting, fb messaging, etc., the initial message from you is the approach. That is why there is not a need for immediate compliments to covertly show her your intent. She already knows.

2.) I am not sure that I really "flirt" when I am messaging a new chick. As I said above, my intent is already shown by messaging her. I more or less play it cool with some quick messages about something I saw in her profile that I also like doing, a close mutual friend, etc. I dont try to be a "funny guy" or anything else. Its just chit chat. I play it cool. The guy selling new Bentleys doesnt have to be great car salesman or pushy. The damn thing will sell itself. All you have to do is engage the customer and nature will take its course. The same can be said when you start messaging a woman.

This is the important part- Just because I message a chick and we have a quick convo doesnt mean that I am going to ask her out. I am not selling myself to her I more so screening her to see if she is engaging in the conversation and deciding if I want to go out with her. Essentially if she doesnt seem excited to be messaging me I will let the convo die off and its up to her to pick it back up later. Make them invest. It cant be all you doing the initiating. She must show interest too.

You cant come across as an "alpha male". However, you can come across as a guy who doesnt act thirsty which covertly tells her "I approached you because I am attracted to you. But I have other options so I am going to see if we are semi compatible before I make a move to invest my important time in taking you out on a date".

3.) IF......IF....IF.....after some messaging back and forth I feel as if she offers more than surface attraction AND she is very much engaged and enthusiastic about messaging me (as in she asks questions, SHE gives compliments, etc) I will simply say "I have to run but I am going to such and such place this Thursday evening for drinks and darts (or whatever). Why dont you join and we can continue this conversation then".

Thats it. At that point she says "Sure sounds great. What time?".....or she says "I am busy then but when are you free this weekend?" and counter offers.

If she says "I have to check my schedule", "I will let you know", etc., I will simply PULL BACK the offer......."No problem. If you are that busy then lets not worry about it and maybe we will bump into each other later down the road and grab that drink then". Thats it. Leave it open ended and walk away.

Attractive women (Single or not) get tons of messages on FB, IG, etc. Almost ALL guys will chase. Not Glassguy. If I get to the point that I make an offer and she doesnt accept it, I will take it away without burning the bridge and walk. This will only increase her interest and attraction if in fact she is somewhat interested and attracted to me. If she is not, oh well. But she may see me as a guy with options and think "Maybe I should hang out with him. There must be something I am missed with this guy because he doesnt act like all of these other thirsty dudes" and she might hit me back up.

But either way, its ok. I take the shot to make the shot. But I am also selective of my shots.

Thats the way I do it. Is it the best way? Probably not for everyone, but it certainly works for me.

Great advice! Thank you.