"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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DJs: going dowtown on 1st date?

Ricky

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I am not one to ever have one night stands

They always end up being at least 2 weeks!

But seriously, I don't eat out girls the first night i meet them all the time.

Yes it's happened before but not normally.

In fact I'm a bit of a traditionalist, normally I'm not looking for the same night lay. I have done it my share of times but it's not my normal approach.

My normal way is the following

1) Meet girl, build good rapport and kiss close with number and e-mail

2) E-mail her for a bit (I do this to see if my initial impression was right). If a girl has high interest she'll play e-mail tag with you for awhile. Normally I'm too busy to schedule a date right away anyways

3) Call her and set up a date

4) See how the date goes. If all goes well, f close her that night. I can wait at least for 3 dates though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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