"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DJs: going dowtown on 1st date?

Ricky

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I am not one to ever have one night stands

They always end up being at least 2 weeks!

But seriously, I don't eat out girls the first night i meet them all the time.

Yes it's happened before but not normally.

In fact I'm a bit of a traditionalist, normally I'm not looking for the same night lay. I have done it my share of times but it's not my normal approach.

My normal way is the following

1) Meet girl, build good rapport and kiss close with number and e-mail

2) E-mail her for a bit (I do this to see if my initial impression was right). If a girl has high interest she'll play e-mail tag with you for awhile. Normally I'm too busy to schedule a date right away anyways

3) Call her and set up a date

4) See how the date goes. If all goes well, f close her that night. I can wait at least for 3 dates though.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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