"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJs familiar with southwest states in the USA, help me in finding out what the deal is there.

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Particularly talking about Arizona but also want to know about Nevada here.

I have a job offer in Arizona and I've heard that girls there are hot but there is an issue concerning something about me which I will later address in this thread that I want to get the answers from you guys about. Now I am narrowing my choices down between a job offer in an upper midwest state, Tempe, and Virginia.

While I have had a curiosity about the southwest, the thing is, I've heard racism there towards "brown people" and foreigners (anyone not white or black) is pretty bad. One of my close friends is a black guy who managed to have a ton of success with cute girls in Arizona and he told me that the girls there dislike going for anyone not black or white.

I asked him why and he said that when he was there, he saw a lot of Mexicans and a lot of latinas with white guys but it was rare and unheard of to see a Hispanic guy with a cute white girl. My friend also told me that the women he was sleeping with there often held a lot of negative views of "foreign races" (Asians, Hispanics, Indians, and Muslims) and generally despised them.

Now over the years, after being with women from different races, I just love being with white girls the most. In my current state (New Hampshire) I've had no issues at all and I have found that people here are very accepting, they tend to judge you based on how you present yourself rather than what race you are.

I've heard that girls in Arizona are attractive but I've also heard that they are raised to be very "anti-foreigner" in the sense that if you aren't black or white, they see as repulsive.

I've never been there but I want to get an idea about the game there.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm originally from NH, live in TX now. I had some HS buddies move to AZ & both are doing really well there out there. Tempe is nice & outside of Phoenix, as a metro area it's 1.4mil. Last I checked the whole state of NH was still under a mil.Now honestly I think some of the real estate is a bit over priced, but I'm comparing that to what I see here in north TX.

Southern hospitality does exist, north east broads tend to be a bit more hardened. But take that with a grain of salt because game is pretty much the same across the states.

Mexicans/Latinas will treat you like a king but they are only doing that because hypergamy is really strong. If you are successful & making $$ they will want to lock you down asap & start having kids really young. Family/tradition pressure to settle down is really high.

I don't know about the negative views of "foreign races" in AZ, the border is right there sounds like bs to me.
 

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Particularly talking about Arizona but also want to know about Nevada here.

I have a job offer in Arizona and I've heard that girls there are hot but there is an issue concerning something about me which I will later address in this thread that I want to get the answers from you guys about. Now I am narrowing my choices down between a job offer in an upper midwest state, Tempe, and Virginia.

While I have had a curiosity about the southwest, the thing is, I've heard racism there towards "brown people" and foreigners (anyone not white or black) is pretty bad. One of my close friends is a black guy who managed to have a ton of success with cute girls in Arizona and he told me that the girls there dislike going for anyone not black or white.

I asked him why and he said that when he was there, he saw a lot of Mexicans and a lot of latinas with white guys but it was rare and unheard of to see a Hispanic guy with a cute white girl. My friend also told me that the women he was sleeping with there often held a lot of negative views of "foreign races" (Asians, Hispanics, Indians, and Muslims) and generally despised them.

Now over the years, after being with women from different races, I just love being with white girls the most. In my current state (New Hampshire) I've had no issues at all and I have found that people here are very accepting, they tend to judge you based on how you present yourself rather than what race you are.

I've heard that girls in Arizona are attractive but I've also heard that they are raised to be very "anti-foreigner" in the sense that if you aren't black or white, they see as repulsive.

I've never been there but I want to get an idea about the game there.
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So far I am hearing from a few guys that it is a bad place to be if you're a Hispanic guy or any kind of a minority group (with the only exception being black guys) that wants to have any luck there. I suspect with the immigration crisis going on in Arizona, it must make the hot girls in Tempe avoid anyone that looks remotely Mexican.
 

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I don't believe any of that for a second, but hey that's just my opinion. I suppose it's possible.

Make your choice based of the better job/career. Not by what rumors people tell you about woman. Honestly, everything I heard about Texas before moving was not accurate what so ever.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The same as it is everywhere else
 

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After giving it much thought, I learned that Hispanic men are generally disliked in Arizona and I don't have many options there so I avoided AZ. Seems like darker skinned guys that aren't black will be wise to avoid the southwest.
 

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From my experience, blacks are the black sheep in the Eastern states, so most girls/people in general have their shields up to me quite often. I can imagine Hispanics face the same issue in the southwest and Texas due to immigration issues. My advice is that there's nothing you can do about it but adapt and let it mold you.
 

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From my experience, blacks are the black sheep in the Eastern states, so most girls/people in general have their shields up to me quite often. I can imagine Hispanics face the same issue in the southwest and Texas due to immigration issues. My advice is that there's nothing you can do about it but adapt and let it mold you.
I've actually heard Texas is good for latino guys.
 

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I've actually heard Texas is good for latino guys.
Texas is good for everyone. That's why I'm moving there in June.

AZ females are hot but very hard to get. They are like Orange County women.

Best place for brown guys? Central Florida. The most nonjudgmental girls are there. They give you lots of iOi and are down for whatever.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Texas is good for everyone. That's why I'm moving there in June.

AZ females are hot but very hard to get. They are like Orange County women.

Best place for brown guys? Central Florida. The most nonjudgmental girls are there. They give you lots of iOi and are down for whatever.
I'll add Chicago to the list too, seen a ton of brown guys (Hispanic) do well with the hotties here.
 
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