PVSSY-EATER
Banned
which one of you guys are 41? Age aint nothing but a number too you know.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
P-E, she is talking about me - I'm actually older, I was 41 when I signed up!Originally posted by cruzy
I can't believe you're 41 and writing this bull. I pity your girls because they probably don't know what it's like to be with a real man.:crackup:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Myth.Originally posted by cruzy
Okay, this is why there are more female Don Juans in the world.
(1) It's okay to be sexually liberated due to the femininist movement.
(2) With sexual liberation, there is a chance to get hurt if feelings are attached so women are becoming more detached. Sexual liberation does not equal a liberation of feelings.
Again, this is going against the woman's own nature!Originally posted by cruzy
(3) A woman who takes care of her appearance has her pick of many guys. Most guys aren't pressing for monogamy, so she is limiting herself is she does.
Yes it is delusional. This is another ill effect of this ridiculous feminist movement.Originally posted by cruzy
(4) No guy is perfect, just like no woman is perfect. Men function in different capacities: ie. bread winner, listener, and good lay. It's hard to find a complete package. Women nowadays want it all, whether that's delusional or even fair, it's true.
Myth.Originally posted by cruzy
(5) It's okay not to have children right away or at all. This allows women to play the field longer and date guys who would not be suitable marriage partners or fathers..
Myth.Originally posted by cruzy
I'm not saying the feminist movement is a good thing, it has its pluses and minuses.
Originally posted by cruzy
The problem is that while women have evolved in some respects, relationship dynamics have not. There is no equality in relationship so far as I have seen. There is always the dominant and subservient one, and usually in long term monogamous relationships the man is the subservient one. And men wonder why the women with them don't want to put out anymore. It would be nice to have a meeting of equals, but is that possible?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.