"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DJ to AFC ratio
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Le Parisien
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2% are DJ'S
13% are rAFC's
75% are AFC's
10% are wbAFC's
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
SexPDX
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Haha! I agree.Originally posted by Le Parisien
Asking this kind of question and giving your answer to the question already places you in the AFC category.
Actually, it's pretty normal for guys who first become aware of the idea of what an AFC is to become hyperaware of AFC characteristics in themselves and others and label certain things "AFC" and avoid those things.
When I first got here a few years back people would always post topics like "What's the most AFC kind of music?" From there it went to discussions about whether certain fictional characters like Peter Parker or Anakin Skywalker were DJ's or AFC's. Anyway, it was kind of funny.
But, like I said, it's a normal stage to go through.
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Completely off-topic, but Peter Parker is actually supposed to be an AFC. They created him that way so he would appeal to the people that buy the comics (the majority of which are probably AFC's). Marvel Comics wanted people to be able to relate to Spiderman more than DC Comics' superheroes such as Batman or Superman, who display more alpha male traits.Originally posted by SexPDX
From there it went to discussions about whether certain fictional characters like Peter Parker or Anakin Skywalker were DJ's or AFC's.-PDX
SexPDX
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Originally posted by Teen Spirit
Completely off-topic, but Peter Parker is actually supposed to be an AFC. They created him that way so he would appeal to the people that buy the comics (the majority of which are probably AFC's). Marvel Comics wanted people to be able to relate to Spiderman more than DC Comics' superheroes such as Batman or Superman, who display more alpha male traits.
HAAHAHAHAHA!!!!
That's pretty funny, but that does make sense.
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