"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey all...

My good friend has been self concious, and insecure for many years now. Recently, (last year) I confronted him about his insecurity and had a friendly man to man talk with him. I asked questions and offered tips from this website, such as...

"Why are you insecure?"
"Who do you need to impress?"
"You're the catch"
"Take her off the pedistal, she's only human"
"****y and funny, girls eat it up"

He's always been insecure about himself and approaching girls. Unfortunatally his problem now is ARROGANCE. My friend has become the most condescending and cold person I currently talk to. He's downright NASTY to girls- thinking he's the 'alpha-male' and god's gift to women, when obviously he is not. (Girls do not even like the "new version" of my friend, and tell me he's downright mean. I'm dissapointed because he is one of my good freinds but is now really getting on my nerves! Thinking he is the BEST in the world and NEVER, and i mean NEVER wrong.

Any suggestions on how to confront someone like this? I want to get him back on the right track...I dont think I can take too much more of this "new ARROGANT version" of my friend...

-FD
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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youve created a monster.....dont worry. he figuered he had to change since he wasnt getting any *****, and hopefully hell change bc he still isnt going to get any ***** being like that. Give him time to find the right balance.
 
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People say im nasty to girls, and im arrogant... can you discribe how hes downright arrogant and nasty??
 
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your friend is going through the jerk-phase after learning about the material on this site.

Don't worry about it too much... from what I've read, most guys turn out better after this phase.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This is my first post at this site, and I've been lurking here for about three or four months.

Well, I just want to say that the guy you're describing is the old me. Ever since I've read about "Secrets of an Alpha Man," David DeAngelo's stuff, and stuffs in here, I have become, without me realizing, a total Jerk. My mindset ever since, was the same as your friend. As a result, I have lost a few normal friends, and a few more of my "nerdy" friends. I don't know why, but they just started avoiding and talking behind my back - thanks to my best friend who is still their friend, who spies for me (I told him about my phase and about the stuff I read and about "The Game," so he kinda understood what I was going through)

After a few months though, I have realized my mistakes and changed my mindsets and actions. I have diverted my energy from being a jerk to a more mature man. Ever since, girls that I've been trying to experiment my "game" on, have been more succesful than ever, so in conclusion, he'll change after a few weeks or months and etc. You just have to tell him what he's doing and how they're wrong and that too much is is not good, and that everyone hates the way he acts. You gotta open his eyes for him, but don't turn him back to a pvssy. Also, an Alpha Man is not a jerk. An Alpha Man is a *humble* gentleman. (take "humble" lightly).

By the way, since then, I got back my normal friends (although I had to tone down my ****y and funny (on my old "girl + friends"), but I now intentionally avoided my nerdy friends.

Yeah! First post!

By the way, I love this site. It marks the cause of the turning point of my life. Every since this site, plus David DeAngelo's stuff, plus "Secrets of An Alpha Man" ebook, plus "Real Social Dynamics" newsletters, and Don Juan Tips came to my life, my life has never been better. Not just on girls, but also and most importantly, my social life.

Thanks to you guys.
 
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