feelingloved
Don Juan
I invite you to review the reality of of the dos-don'ts of DJ Spirituality with me, in this thread.
To encourage a good and relevant discussion, I have started the thread with the origin, and none the less most compelling topic, which brings most of us to this site. Your respected woman with another man.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6806_inf.html
This is a marriage builders video on a logical approach to preventing an affair. Its weakness (and strength) is that its logical. (Do you think it would work?)
There's been a lot of discussion on this board about rationalizing/promoting seducing/attracting women who are already participating in an existing relationship with another man.
These are rationalized in several ways:
I'm sure you can point out some missing from the list. Do so.
The reasons for NOT encouraging an affair, are theoretically inspired.
Lets look at this from a practical point of view.
Put philosophy aside for a moment.
You do live with yourself and with the long-term outcome. Is it beneficial to you?
Concerning "stealing" a girlfriend, what is trying to be determined is, is it good or bad or neutral, long term.
Lets look at this without being righteous and without condemning one another.
Thank you, for sharing your "real world" stories
, brothers.
To encourage a good and relevant discussion, I have started the thread with the origin, and none the less most compelling topic, which brings most of us to this site. Your respected woman with another man.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6806_inf.html
This is a marriage builders video on a logical approach to preventing an affair. Its weakness (and strength) is that its logical. (Do you think it would work?)
There's been a lot of discussion on this board about rationalizing/promoting seducing/attracting women who are already participating in an existing relationship with another man.
These are rationalized in several ways:
- all good/worthy HBs are with boyfriends.
- its the way of modern society, because we no longer have social controls to ensure situations of temptation are avoided.
- traditional bias against infidelity is gone; its expected.
- being cheated on is a sign of low value, cheating on a spouse is a sign of weakness; getting another person's spouse is a sign of value.
- some boyfriends/husbands are undeserving or under committed.
- the easiest way to emotionally get past being cheated on, is to play the role of the tyrant yourself as opposed to the victim.
- a female in a relationship is easier to seduce.
- the woman was going to cheat with someone anyways.
- its the way of the wolf pack, genetically natural, and damn exciting.
I'm sure you can point out some missing from the list. Do so.
The reasons for NOT encouraging an affair, are theoretically inspired.
- the risk of physical danger.
- relationships which start off as affairs, don't last.
- major religions condemn it.
Lets look at this from a practical point of view.
Put philosophy aside for a moment.
You do live with yourself and with the long-term outcome. Is it beneficial to you?
Concerning "stealing" a girlfriend, what is trying to be determined is, is it good or bad or neutral, long term.
- Do you honestly feel neutral towards the topic, even months into your DJ evolution?
- Do you reflect on your exploits? Are they really a source of pride, years later?
- Did you get a rewarding relationship out of it?
- Are the memories a source of strength & comfort to you? Be honest to us.
- What does your real life experience translate into, for you, as best you can tell, in terms of actual lasting outcomes in the long run of your life?
- How has your "karmic luck" been when perusing a #1 pro-seducing animalistic way of life vs the #2 pro-good-person philosophical path?
- In the exact same scenarios, would you have done any of them differently, given the chance to?
- Do you feel either path #1 or 2 has helped you?
- I am trying to determine, from your point of view, which path the universe tends to reward. Luck, direct outcomes, confidence, and emptiness are all measurable senses. What is your take?
Lets look at this without being righteous and without condemning one another.
Thank you, for sharing your "real world" stories
, brothers.