"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DJ Sadao
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm not replacing her, merely waiting until she gets back.Zerix said:Damn! Funny **** up in Tijuana... lesson learned
Now that you girl is gone, progress with the new ones
And hb8highschool has very high IL, I can tell right off the bat.
Flabbergasped?
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I think what's strikes me the most is how little you use this DJ stuff in your FRs. It seems to all come naturally. I wish I was like that, I struggle for poon lol
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yea I know, I try not to think about that. But you can be damn sure that I won't be sitting around on my ass until she gets back.Zerix said:Oh, of course, didn't mean replace her. Just that, can't ya have some fun while she's gone? You know SHE might
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
In other news, yet another hottie at work that is giving IOI's. Told my buddy that she was going to her boyfriends after work but later in the night when I asked her what she was up to, she said she was just going to a "friends." There was plenty more chat between us since the job gets really slow at times, but there is no way I can remember all of it.
So as you know, hb9model has been in Europe for 2 weeks and doesn't come back for another 2. But she's been sending me messages over facebook since her phone doesn't work from there and this is about 1/4 of the entire message, but this is the only relevant part. Also, this is in response to her friend telling me over dinner a few nights ago that "hb9model feels like you don't miss her at all and she thinks you hate her." So a couple nights later i sent hb9model a message giving her an update on what i've been up to, and very subtly told her that I do indeed miss her, in the most non AFC way of course.
Anyway, not even sure how to respond to this:
"thats good u hung out with hb6friend she seemed really upset for a while i was worried about her. its hard because u have a whole new thing goin on plus ur like an hour away so of course things are going to be different. hb6friend said shes having a shindig at her house the night hbeuropePartner and i get back and apparently <our friend from far away> is going to be there because itll be after they go to palm springs. are u going? we get back at like 5 and ill make sure to sleep on the plane ride so ill be somewhat coherent haha hb6friend said wed all go to dinner or something and then go back to her house cuz she has an empty one again! wooohoooo. anyways dont worry about what hb6friend said im kind of retarded and i was b!tching about how u are the only one that doesnt respond quickly haha sorry i am impatient i get angry when i get on the internet cuz its so hard to do it here and i havent gotten a respnse lol. anywho its weird how homesick i am im having so much fun and i dont really think about anybody when im out or running around all day but hte second i get back to the hotel or im listening to my ipod and i hear a song that reminds me of someone it hits me so hard. to be honest i didnt think id miss anyone and im just gonna go out and say it but i miss you a lot more than i thought i would before i left which worries me because i never get like that over people and i know that things are going to be so different than how they were when i get back. sorry if im being weird but i dont know what that means or what my deal is im just really confused with how i feel and thought id let u know. anyways hope the job, beach, and partying are amazing give <my roommate> a hug for me and ill talk to u soon! see you in about 17 days!"
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I dunno, drawing something up like how it's not the same without her (don't imply missing), could work.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This lets her know that she can stop being afraid to open up to me, lets her know that I miss her (but in less afc words), and also shows that I want her to have a good time on her vacation rather than some afc who's all like "i need you here now! i miss you so much! blah blah blah.
ANYWHO! A little update on my current situation. Besides missing h9model STILL, life is amazing. I live 5min walking distance(1min driving) to the beach which is 100% populated by college students ranging from age 18-23 who just kick it on the beach with music, drinking, tanning, etc. I have a new delivery job that is awesome because I enjoy driving and listening to my ipod and i'm making more than enough money so I've got a good amount of spending money to suit my lifestyle.
Just the other day i'm walking home from the beach and see a hb7walker walking 20ft in front of me. She keeps looking back because i'm taking all the same turns as her and eventually i shout "I'm not following you i swear!" and she laughs. I jog up to her and ask her where she's headed, apparently she lives in my complex so i introduce myself and we walk back together and chat. Once at our complex she gives me her room number and we head our separate ways.
Also, i've got hb8highschool that wants to come party at our place asap and hb7.5quiet who has been continuously asking me for rides home after work even though she has a bf (who looks like charles mother****ing manson) but I guess she can't be too into him. She's really flirtatious with me and a couple nights ago when she asked for a ride I said "you're out of my direction, you better give some damn good road head" she fully responded with "oh don't worry, I do." Although on Friday I invited her to come party but after dropping her off she ran inside and came back out and said she couldn't that night, so I figured fvck it and hadn't focused on her since. Over the last couple days she keeps insisting how we're going to party on Friday and she'll bring me a handle of whatever in apologies for not coming last weekend, I responded with something like "oh, so you're inviting yourself over huh?" and proceeded to tell her that I'm not sure if i'm busy or not but I shall let her know.
Things are going good and hopefully continue to get even better.
edit: Three girls back home that want to see me before they all leave the country on vacation on Friday, but I don't think we'll get to meet up before they go. One specifically said for me to get my fine ass down there to see her before she leaves.
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Has anyone read Neil Straus' book 'the Game?' The story of a geek who became a master pickup artist? A TRUE STORY about him. You've got to read it, I've still got quite a few pages left to read befor I finish it.
So hb9model flew back last night from her month in Europe and we partied that night. At first I was worried things would be different and maybe even a little weird, but before not too long we were doing the horizontal hussle. Funny thing is though..she just recently got back on the pill so I didn't bring a condom thinking I wouldn't need one. So after about 45min of fooling around I go down there but she stops me and asks if I have a condom...
Sadao: Umm, I thought you were back on the pill?
HB9model: Yes but I still only have sex with a condom.
Sadao: Haha, umm wtf..why? hahaha
HB9model: Sadao..I have rules, I don't want to get pregnant.
Sadao: Well that's what birth control does, and that's why I didn't bring a condom, so I guess we're **** out of luck haha, but it's no big deal.
HB9model: Oh it's not? *grinnning*
Sadao: Nope
HB9model: Don't worry about it.
Sadao: You know..at this moment that statement could mean two completely different things, best you clarify!
HB9model: *grinning again* don't worry about it.
fast forward to hardcore sex.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
also, seeing her again tonight at this pool party later on and i'm not bringing a condom in an attempt to make the bareback routine!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.