"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DJ Meetup Group Manhattan

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Calling all New York Metro Area DJs!

The DJ forums can be a great place to visit, but sometimes we
need to talk things over face to face with other men. That's just
what me and my buddy (two mature DJs who met right here on SoSuave) have been doing. We've met twice already and have had a great time discussing our relationships with women, and other issues which effect us as men.

We've learned a lot and had a bunch of fun too and now, we're ready to expand our group and turn it into a monthly happening that can help more guys. So we are inviting any New York area based DJs (mature or not) to join us every month for a couple drinks, and some stimulating, entertaining, and educational conversation.

We're scoping out fun, but mellow bars in the Times Square area of Manhattan. We'd like to get a good sized group going asap with perhaps a new topic of discussion every month. We're also
open to your ideas for the group too!

Let me know if you have any questions.

mj
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Count me in hombres: [email protected]. If you're still considering venues, The Cutting Room on 24th & 6th is solid, though perhaps a bit south of the proposed target -
 

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hey you young ins...we might be too old for you guys but you ought to get your own group going. You have a good start already..


regards
 

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yea,
I sent an e-mail to the young guys, we think we're gonna start a group of our own.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Silki, we are shooting for mid december. We usually try and meet on tuesday evening. Does that work for you?

Mike
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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wait!

R u guys in the young man meetup group, or the older man meet up group?
 
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