DJ + love

[rapsta]

Can a DJ fall in love? If not, then I think you are missing all the things love can bring. But if you do, you will just break yourself. You know you can't stick to just one girl, you gotta move on. But how about if you don't fall in love with this one girl and just go playing around with 10 girls at once? Ofcourse, thats a fun experience, but it doesn't bring the feeling love does, you can't simulate that feeling.
So what the fvck should u do? If you fall in love, you are letting your life pass by. If you don't, life seems more or less worthless.
I broke up with my girlfriend last night, we both loved eachother and we still do. Now i have to fight my feelings. I have to be strong. I have to move on. The summer is here, its time for me to do my thing. I don't think i'll ever fall in love again, at least not for a very long time!
So tell me, does anybody know wtf to do? Fall in love or not? I have no clue anymore. I'm just gonna get my sex on and make it through the summer.

 

[DJUofS]

Originally posted by rapsta
Can a DJ fall in love?

LOL

 

[squirrels]

A "DJ" can BE in love, yes. But FALL...no, I don't think so. Falling implies a loss of control. I would think a DJ would more "slide" into love.

LOL...yeah, the analogy is corny. But at any rate, the measure of a man's romantic life isn't how many women he bangs, or how good the women are that he bangs, it's whether he's happy with how he's progressing with women, happy with the way his love life is going, whether that's with a single quality girl or 50 hot slvts.

One of the big mistakes on this site is the belief that being with one woman is BAAAAAAD. It is for someone who's used to becoming clingy and dependent (i.e. the dreaded "one-itis"), and you want to stay away from it if you're still "recovering", but the main focus is to change your attitude when dealing with things like women to give you more power and control in the flow of the relationship...to be more dominant and masculine.

 

[Dirtheart]

But at any rate, the measure of a man's romantic life isn't how many women he bangs, or how good the women are that he bangs, it's whether he's happy with how he's progressing with women, happy with the way his love life is going, whether that's with a single quality girl or 50 hot slvts.

I thought I'd ressurect this post as I think Squirrels gives some very good advice here. I think a lot of aspiring DJs are turning very cold and hard skinned; they're viewing approaches and pick ups as a competition and undermining the whole point of being a DJ.

Being a DJ should be about discovering happiness and contentment. Isn't that what everyone wants in life? If you are contented with yourself there is no reason to compete and try to prove yourself to others.

 

[squirrels]

If you're talking about hardcore PUAs and "players," then no. To them, seduction is a sport and love is a distraction from the goal of the game.

Otherwise, yes. But a DJ doesn't go looking for love. Love finds him. A real man has emotions, often very strong ones, but they don't dominate his life. THEY are his tools, not the other way around.

Meet women, have fun with them, and show them a good time. If love comes about, then start thinking about it. The more people in the world that are searching desperately for love, the greater the sales of Prozac.

 

[chicksrock]

LOL squirrels!!

 

[Iguana]

I've been wondering this kind of stuff lately. I mean, how far does "controlling your feelings" for a DJ go?

Is there any DJ out there who is right now IN LOVE and spend a lot of time thinking about a particular girl?

just wondering...

 

[SDBmania]

I like this thread, it makes much sense to me. I mean, what's the point of dating if you're not open to love coming your way?

 

[Okra]

The point is to build up confidence, not fall in love with just any broad, and date or fall in love when YOU are ready.