"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJ learn and grow from problems -> had a bad day!

chicksrock

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I am really angry so I decided to post here... i need to vent my anger!

Well today I hit absolute rock bottom... just had a HORRIBLE day...!!! everything went wrong.. very frustrating and painful...

I can't wait to turn another chapter starting with a new fresh day tomorrow....

I think DJism is definitely an all-round phillosophy and about how to live your life on a daily basis .......it is just a side effect of living the "DJ way of life" that you are able to get women .

Honestly to me and in my experience... I live day by day...each day is a battle.... i like to take a lesson from each day...

today by having a very horrible day i have learnt many valuable lessons....

I think living a DJ Way of life does infact bring a lot more problems....but the DJ learns and grows even more by facing problems!!

what is the DJ Way of life you may ask?
for me...my interpretation is the following
-not being distracted by tv, radio/materialism crap
-being in good shape, health ..lookin your best/sexy
-following your passions...living your passions...pretty much living life the way you want it.

I am always looking to improve my life and the way I live it ... and so I must bear the cycle of such low points and also of high points... wish there'd be only high points though!!

so anyways,...just thought I would add my *small* experiences for others to think and reflect and comment on ..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree 100% with you there. I believe DJing is a way of life or a mindset and the DJ Bible and board is like a collection of experiences - successes and failures - for us to learn from.

It is not a step by step instruction manual. You have to learn to integrate the DJ wisdom into your personality.

At the heart of attraction and success (with women and in life) is confidence, and the only way to portray true confidence is to develop it within. Learn from personal experience, make the most of yourself and be contented with who you are, without women. Once there you don't need oneliners, quirky acts or desperate strategies to convince women to like you.
 

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hey man, stick in there. life is ALWAYS, and i mean ALWAYS filled with ups and downs.

The ***** about it, is when your gonig through the high times in life you don't realize how good you have it.

I was playing football, in great shape, dating a girl that was working at Abercrombie and getting some of the best sex of my life.

The crazy thing, man, is that even though i had all those things going for me, it took hitting rock bottom for me to realize what i had... and what i lost. during the high times, all i could focus on was petty BULL**** that didn't really matter.

now, after a severe hip injury that kept me in bed for over 2 months and left me with a titanium pin in my hip... oh and about 70 extra pounds.

yeah, slow metabolism + bed rest + steroids (medicinal ones) + mom's good ol' home cooking has left me pretty out of shape and 70 pounds of fat i need to get rid of.

And you know what? I've been approaching women the same as i used to, and i've been getting shot down almost routinely.

i'll tell you man, sometimes i hate women with a passion because i know my personality hasn't changed, and i'm still the same upbeat person i've always been, but oddly enough they just keep shooting me down.

oh well, right? just motivates me more to get back into my old shape and drop the pounds (dropped 30 so far in about 6 months :D).

stick in there man. you might not realize how great you have it right now. (everything is relative)
 

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thankyou neptoons..
you broaden my horizons even further! :)
 
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