From yesterday, which I forgot in my initial writeup:
The first encounter in the gym, I did my warm-up and went to the area for my first workout. Straight after, I did see an HB7; she was doing some not-so-ordinary stretching. Eye contact → Smile → Wave → Critical hit; she smiles back and even laughs.
Now, I could have talked with her straight away easily … but choked.
“It's fine; I just do my first lift, and after that I walk back to her.” I finished my lift in record time … aaaand she was gone. ****.
After that, my mood went from alright to bad. I was very disappointed in myself.
Learned/reflecting:
- As my mood went bad and was no longer viable after that choke, I should have just taken a moment to calm down and reset
- The 3-second rule would be key, but it's difficult to put into practice for me. I should actively aim for what more.
Week 3 Day 3 (Saturday)
Today was pathetic in every way.
I studied the guide way more carefully and wrote it off to my notes. To make sure I really hammered it in, I also made a flowchart out of it.
It wasn't enough… I scrambled the words in my mind again and again.
After some staring at my screen, I stood up to do some practice dry runs by imagining a Christmas tree in the storage room as an HB.
Unbelievably, I choked over and over again. Am I actually mentally retarded? I GOT SCARED OF TALKING TO A CHRISTMAS TREE (this bootcamp will get me in a mental asylum at this rate…). I repeated it again and again; it sounded a bit robotic as I was done, but it was better than the alternatives to what happened yesterday.
My only success so far talking to attractive women for more than 2 minutes was in week 2 at the club. Despite me just saying not too long ago, “Clubs are overrated,” I went there due to lack of knowing of any better options.
The main issue of Week 3: "Now, for this week, we are going to hold conversations with strangers,
but this time the strangers will
be women we would consider dating"
Like the other day, I walked through it, but this time I got there too early; I forgot clubs only open late … I walked around for 4 hours. All I have seen was mostly Middle Eastern and mixed ancestry. I don't have anything against anybody, but it's a matter of personal preference. What I was looking for was women of my country and similar ones like France, Italy, and so on. That type has been one of the following:
1) in big groups of 5-10 or even more
2) of questionable age … 16yo is legal here, but after what happened the other day, I really wasn't feeling it
3) They had been in groups of 2-3 but have been like 1,83m(6'0").
Surely there had been at least some within my strike zone, which I passed, but I couldn't tell because they all had so much makeup on; they felt more like a drawing to me than a person. To me it seemed they adopted this trend due to the original population now being almost a minority in this specific city... Arabs and Turks seem to be really into women that put bucket loads on their faces. If at least it was well done, like the magic that Asians do, but it looked so unnatural to me … turned me off a lot.
Some Arab guys, a group of 20-30 dressed in dark clothes, had some wannabe escalation going. Police cars and cops running to the scene. To me it looked like a school fight ("Can't be the cause of this much police"); didn't see any knives either. I went straight through not realizing I was within the scene (lol). Police have been rushing in, and I was like, “Don't mind me, just passing through.” What a sad state for a society …
After that clubs are about to open and the first one told me I was “suspicious and dangerous looking", didn't even know how to react …
Second club was the "exclusive" one I was last time at, with my first success so far. I forgot they had a dress code. Somehow the door guy remembered me and told me, “Sorry … just dress like you did last time did and I can let you in”. That was a real bummer, but at least he was somewhat sympathetic.
And right next to me, OF COURSE, I had to meet that one Guy from my old gym which also knows me from work. This is truly unbelievable, here I am, going out of my way to no be recognized and meeting someone of my little town in such a way.
After that I was calling it a day.
I went to the parking garage and forgot to pay for my ticket, blocking all the other people from driving out. So I did run in again to pay for it and let me out. And WHATS THIS? Crossed paths with an HB7-8 in a group with 2 … FINALLY … but I had to get back fast; otherwise I might get in trouble with the staff. To be fair, chances are I would have choked anyway, since my mood was down to much at this point.
“Let's just go home …” Again, lots of stress and effort with nothing to show for it ...
Learned/reflecting:
- Probably should go to another city for clubbing that has more women within my strike zone, even if it's a bit longer to drive to.
- Or maybe I should just stick with the gym and other sports locations. So far 1 hour in the gym has usually more HB7+ than 5-6 hours of actively searching in that one city.
- Or maybe I should try to change gears completely … maybe including churches? Originally I was Christian, and I still believe God exists one way or the other; I'm just not convinced enough that any religion got it right all the way. I think it would be fine morally speaking to go to such places to "find my faith". Wouldn't even call it plausible deniability since it's kind of true.
Result 0 (0 out of 10)
This blows … if Week 3 exercise was about talking to just 10 women that other people within their respective social circles would find attractive, I could surely bruteforce it.
Issue being, I wouldn't <consider dating> any of them; they're not my demographic.
I declared I would follow the bootcamp “to the letter,” which I will … but I'm starting to lose hope of completing this week by the given timeline.
If anyone has any practical advice, I would appreciate it.
