I'm doing the DJ bible, this thing is great. I've become much more outgoing and strong in the past few weeks. I had a question. In the 2nd week it says to go and converse with 10 strangers. The question is, where? On the street you pass by ppl, doesn't happen. I guess when you're in somewhere, like the train or bus. Or maybe a restaurant. Places like that? Did anyone here make a special outing to the mall or something just to do it? Also, I read, which I think is a good idea, is to catch her eyes first and smile, to see if you can approach. Any other tips or suggestions I'd appreciate.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJ Bible - Where to meet people to talk with?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Best bet is to meet women in places where women with the specific qualities you are looking for hang out. Unless you don't care about the type of women you meet, you should go to specific places. t makes even more sense if you go to places where YOU feel comfortable too.
As for eye contact I've learned something over the past couple of weeks that seems far fetched but actually holds true. After making eye contact keep looking at her after she looks away. If she looks back within 45 seconds, there is some type of interest level. I sh1t you not!
I learned this while in Europe during the last couple of weeks of hanging out with stereotypical Don Juans. I tried it there and it held true. I just got back this week and will test it on stateside women this weekend.
As for eye contact I've learned something over the past couple of weeks that seems far fetched but actually holds true. After making eye contact keep looking at her after she looks away. If she looks back within 45 seconds, there is some type of interest level. I sh1t you not!
I learned this while in Europe during the last couple of weeks of hanging out with stereotypical Don Juans. I tried it there and it held true. I just got back this week and will test it on stateside women this weekend.
TDOT
Don Juan
That eye contact tip is gold.
Thanks Mr. Francisco d'Anconia.
To add to that, here's something that I learned about eye contact.
Never dart back and forth rapidly between focusing on her left or right eye. It makes you look nervous.
Instead focus on just her left eye for a good 45 secs then smoothly move over to the right eye and focus on that one for a good 45 seconds. You will appear relaxed and calm.
Thanks Mr. Francisco d'Anconia.
To add to that, here's something that I learned about eye contact.
Never dart back and forth rapidly between focusing on her left or right eye. It makes you look nervous.
Instead focus on just her left eye for a good 45 secs then smoothly move over to the right eye and focus on that one for a good 45 seconds. You will appear relaxed and calm.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
diablo
Master Don Juan
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