"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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H34T533K3R

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Hello all first post here, been a lurker for a while though. Seeking advice from experienced DJS!! thanks in advance

so im 24 & married and where i work there is an older woman, close to 40 also married, we openly talk about our lives and what not. so anyways this lady has the body of a godess, shes been pretty much working out since high school, I want to make a move on her but not sure how. we smile and joke with each other, ocasionaly tap each other or poke each other, anyways I complimented her told her she looked amazing and she seemed to like it.

My question is, whats a good way to either ask or see if she would be willing to start a little "fling". Just looking advice for how to approach her I guess. Please excuse the poor grammer. Any tips/advice appreciated. Thanks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sinistar

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Lock it (underage poster, seeking advice to wreck two marriages, probably a troll)
 

Ever onward

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Well dude why do you want to cheat? Are you unhappy with your marriage?
 

H34T533K3R

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lol im not trying to wreck marriages, of course i wont get caught. Anyways I thought DJ's were womanizers. Maybe i was wrong.

Honestly is cheating really frowned upon here? Its no big deal everyone does it. And I thought this forum was for help with women, not love/marriage counseling. Im planning on sticking with my girl regardless
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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H34T533K3R said:
lol im not trying to wreck marriages, of course i wont get caught. Anyways I thought DJ's were womanizers. Maybe i was wrong.

Honestly is cheating really frowned upon here? Its no big deal everyone does it. And I thought this forum was for help with women, not love/marriage counseling. Im planning on sticking with my girl regardless
Alright, I've gotta ask...
  1. If you want to cheat, why did you get married?
  2. Since you're married and plan on sticking with your "girl" (not "wife"), why do you want to cheat?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You're an adult in an adult relationship. You took your marriage vows, honor it.
 

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H34T533K3R said:
lol im not trying to wreck marriages, of course i wont get caught. Anyways I thought DJ's were womanizers. Maybe i was wrong.

Honestly is cheating really frowned upon here? Its no big deal everyone does it. And I thought this forum was for help with women, not love/marriage counseling. Im planning on sticking with my girl regardless
:nono: Sorry but I think cheating is probably one of the worst things you can do esp. when you're married, and no not everyone does it.
I don't cheat...You know I hope you get caught and get a divorce then it screws up your life...
theres a reason why you get married and obviously you didn't get married for the right ones if you're just going to be a womanizer.
Exactly why did you get married anyway?
How would you feel if you're wife was thinking/doing the same as you're thinking of doing right now?...but fortunately I don't give a **** its your marriage and if tapping some old broad is worth Jeopardizing then go for it...
 

ValleyDJing

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DJ1234 said:
Exactly why did you get married anyway?
Thats the real question. You gave up a life of screwing different chicks every week, to having to listen to the same woman nag, day in and day out, and you get to give away half your stuff. Cool.
 

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DJ1234 said:
How would you feel if you're wife was thinking/doing the same as you're thinking of doing right now?

Newsflash dude...she probably already is.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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