"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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FLstud83

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I've had some success on myspace in the past so for the last few days I've sent out a bunch of messages/requests to see what kind of response I would get. Being that I'm a fairly good-looking guy and have a slight personality I thought I'd be able to get a few numbers. However, apparently the humor in my profile or the messages I send aren't amusing or charming enough. I've been kind of secluded lately but just got a new job. Although it seems like a lot of girls around the metro area where I live aren't very friendly at all (Orlando). I'm beginning to think women are incredibly stupid and have horrible taste again...after I had somewhat gotten rid of my negative thinking.

I'm 24 (going on 25) and have never had a gf. Although I've gotten laid many times, some of the time with girls who didn't do it for me, I still can't seem to get into a normal relationship with a cool girl. I came close recently but with me moving, it didn't work out. So having hooked up in the past with a few good-looking women off myspace, I figured I'd try it again. Two things I know about myself are that I can be somewhat of a smooth talker and although I'm not Brad Pitt by a long shot, I'm not ugly either. I don't say very much about myself in the profile....have an interesting quote as my headline, some humor that alludes to me having the looks and charisma of movie stars, and only have a few pics. on there. I send short messages that basically say,"Hi there...how's it going? I'm intrigued by your profile. You seem like a lot of fun and look amazing in the pics. What are you up to, anything exciting?" Does anyone have any tips or insight into what I might be doing wrong. I sent out about 20 messages and got hardly any response.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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up_an_up

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well since you just moved you could send some messages out like "hi im new to orlando" and go from there. But as you said, myspace is a very hard way to meet people. Ive sent out mabye 30 messages before with about 3 responses... lol
 

jesusrules

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I underestand what your saying but really dude I wouldnt want to meet any chicks on the internet. cause i believe if you try to meet up with a chick later you might be let down. cause people arent always honest on the internet man.
I know dude its tough finding chicks that are cool, i even have a hard time finding that sometimes. but you got to keep positive. even if we want to flip out at times lol.
 

MooseGod

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I think the best thing Myspace/Facebook is good for is when you have a class or you work with a cute girl, then ask her if she's on there and add her. Good segue from the work/school dynamic to personal life. Hell, I've hooked up with tons of chicks like that, it's not creepy or desperate like messaging random people, and it keeps things on a friendly basis even if nothing romantic ever transpires.
 
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