"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Discrete Flirting With A Co-Worker

DharmaBear

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This is a tough one. I really dig this girl in my office, but as you might imagine it's hard to flirt and show interest without those around us picking up on it (and, in turn, start the rumor mill churning. Not good!).

I'm getting signals now that she might like me too, but either a) she's not seriously flirting with me; or b) she is, but is holding back like I am because of the environment.

So far it's been mostly light, casual kino on the arms and shoulders, lots of EC and smiling, and some flirty e-mails to one another (even there we can only go so far, because e-mail is monitored in our office).

This is driving me nuts, as it's hard to determine if she really likes me and is worth asking out. I like to follow Anti-Dump's Machine, but to do so I need more proof as to whether or not there's true interest. The office environment is killing that.

Any suggestions?

-Dharma
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The TallOne

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The only true interest test.. is asking out. If she says no.. either she is not interested, or, she is into playing games. If its either, move on.


I wouldn't even ask her though, inter-office dating rarely works, and if you two have a falling out.. it might spread to the work area.
 

bossdog

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i wouldnt advise asking her out. You already know her pretty good i assume. You should get her back to your place for a movie or something.

Remember what you want. Your headed in the wrong direction. If you wanna get her in bed dont go to the movie theatre lol.

Also remeber that its one thing to just **** a co worker. But its entirely different to date a co worker. dating implies relationship. And relationship leads to breakup. Breakup leads to bad feelings. Dont **** where you eat.
 
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