"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Discrete Flirting With A Co-Worker

DharmaBear

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This is a tough one. I really dig this girl in my office, but as you might imagine it's hard to flirt and show interest without those around us picking up on it (and, in turn, start the rumor mill churning. Not good!).

I'm getting signals now that she might like me too, but either a) she's not seriously flirting with me; or b) she is, but is holding back like I am because of the environment.

So far it's been mostly light, casual kino on the arms and shoulders, lots of EC and smiling, and some flirty e-mails to one another (even there we can only go so far, because e-mail is monitored in our office).

This is driving me nuts, as it's hard to determine if she really likes me and is worth asking out. I like to follow Anti-Dump's Machine, but to do so I need more proof as to whether or not there's true interest. The office environment is killing that.

Any suggestions?

-Dharma
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The TallOne

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The only true interest test.. is asking out. If she says no.. either she is not interested, or, she is into playing games. If its either, move on.


I wouldn't even ask her though, inter-office dating rarely works, and if you two have a falling out.. it might spread to the work area.
 

bossdog

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i wouldnt advise asking her out. You already know her pretty good i assume. You should get her back to your place for a movie or something.

Remember what you want. Your headed in the wrong direction. If you wanna get her in bed dont go to the movie theatre lol.

Also remeber that its one thing to just **** a co worker. But its entirely different to date a co worker. dating implies relationship. And relationship leads to breakup. Breakup leads to bad feelings. Dont **** where you eat.
 
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