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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HAHAHAPhilippeUrielAmancio said:Or just wait until it's dark.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ModeOne ??sexybeast said:Before you can be sucessful going direct - you need to have a direct mind-set. Its not about canned lines or any of that sh!t. A direct guy is direct in everyday life not just when his chatting up a girl. Most importantly a direct guy DOES NOT GIVE A FvCK WHAT OTHERS THINK OF HIM. It takes time to change your beliefs and have a direct mind-set - Learn from the best. ModeOne is good.
VERY WELL STATED!!Derek Flint said:Seeing thier face light up like a Christmas Tree is when you know you've done a correct direct approach, with the right body language, right tonality, and with confidence.
The guys that would rather use indirect openers don't have the balls to approach a 9 or 10 directly, and neither do most so called "PUA's" they use some lame "opinion opener"
Want to "DHV"? Walk up to a straight up dime, and confidently tell her that you think she is gorgeous, and that you would like to get to know her. Not in a "you're so hot, I would do anything to be with you" type of way, but with a confident state of mind, like "That ass is mine, and I'm going to go take it"
Most guys here can't/won't do it, so they denegrate those who do and can.
Trust me, when done correctly, a Direct approach works better than any "method" I've seen or done, and I've been in the "community" for 10 years.
PU is not complicated. You don't have to "Peacock" or learn the M3 model, or NLP, or "The Cube" or "Cold reads" or any of those gimmicks, tricks and such.
And, if you don't believe me, try it for yourself, then listen to the feedback you get from the women who tell you how awesome it is to have a guy approach them in such a direct, straight-forward manner, instead of using some lame opinion opener when she damn well knows why you are approaching her, and it's not because you care about "who lies more, men or women?"
Actually, many women will categorize you as an "AFC" when you use an indirect approach because you don't have the balls to approach her directly, when she damn well knows why you are approaching her.
And if you're worried about "giving away your power" then you never had any to begin with.
I've had 9s and 10s literally shake and tremble, and say "Oh my god" when approaching them directly.
Who do you think has the "power" in that interaction?
And at that point, she's already yours.
Think you'll get that type of reaction by asking her if she saw the two girls fighting outside over some guy? Or some other overused community opener?
And, it's not just about the approach, it's how you conduct yourself after the approach as well. Being direct. No games. No negs. No Cube. None of that BS
I would also recommend reading "Mode One" by Alan Roger Currie.
Do a search. It's a $20.00 ebook and will open your eyes to what is possible when dropping the games and the BS
Games are for women.
or become a DJ and say **** my looks, you girls will love me anyhow.....ToughLove said:and if ur ugly, dont even bother cold approaching!!! ur best bet is to get hooked up thru your social circle or simply by lowering your standards
Well said. It is not just an approach, it's about your lifestyle.sexybeast said:Before you can be sucessful going direct - you need to have a direct mind-set. Its not about canned lines or any of that sh!t. A direct guy is direct in everyday life not just when his chatting up a girl. Most importantly a direct guy DOES NOT GIVE A FvCK WHAT OTHERS THINK OF HIM. It takes time to change your beliefs and have a direct mind-set - Learn from the best. ModeOne is good.
That's not really the way to do a direct approach.ChrizZ said:I wanna find out if anyone actually really tried the direct approach even in daygame and what was your success rate?
"Hey, what's your name? I like the outfit. You look sexy. How about we have lunch sometime?"
I'm gonna try that line today.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
More good advice...Lust said:Direct Approach:
1) Making sure you exude confidence and even though going direct, not showing neediness.
2) Embed that you are interested but have other options
3) Hook hard! Try anchoring a kino when you hook. A well calibrated girl will doggy dinner bowl and at that point you can go for the kiss.
4) Just because you're going direct doesn't mean you have to be boring with the "So, what do you do?" questions.
Lust said:Direct Approach:
1) Making sure you exude confidence and even though going direct, not showing neediness.
2) Embed that you are interested but have other options
3) Hook hard! Try anchoring a kino when you hook. A well calibrated girl will doggy dinner bowl and at that point you can go for the kiss.
4) Just because you're going direct doesn't mean you have to be boring with the "So, what do you do?" questions.
Agent Zero said:What are some direct openers you guys recommend? College is back in session and there are hot babes everywhere. I will still use "are you single" but I want some variety too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I am expecting that about 50% of the time and that's what I've gotten so far in 4 approaches.ToughLove said:"are you single"
no, sorry
get ready to hear that alot
I used a situational opener on a 3 set of HB's that were rejecting everybody (9.5)Derek Flint said:Well said. It is not just an approach, it's about your lifestyle.
As for "Mode One" Google "Mode One by Alan Roger Currie" it's a $20.00 ebook that is not for the faint of heart.
Yes, you can approach directly to a single girl in a multiple set.
I've even had her friends "wing" for me after doing a direct approach.
No excuses, no BS, no canned material, no routines, no tricks, tactics etc...
It's about being honest with your approach and your intentions, and living your life in much the same manner.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.