"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Read more...

Diminished Connection

L

luber873

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 27, 2013
Messages
59
Reaction score
1
Gf asked me how I thought we were doing last night. She said she feels a diminished connection to me and that we are less intimate and "lovey dovey." We are at 7 months straight official but been dating on/off for 14 months.

We've taken a vacation together but lately she had swings of being super into me and distant.

Any advice?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Atom Smasher

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,657
Reaction score
6,614
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
OP, what is your "gut" feeling about the reason? Usually the gut feeling turns out to be correct.
 
L

luber873

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 27, 2013
Messages
59
Reaction score
1
Pair - it's not another guy. Routine is a likely culprit.

Atom - my "gut" says I'm not as attracted to her as I initially thought and she feels this.
 
C

Checkmate12

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 15, 2013
Messages
94
Reaction score
8
Luber, I don't know your relationship experience but this is a very common occurrence around the 6-7 month mark. Attraction on both ends has dimmed due to familiarity and the onset of LTR comfort. The excitement has subsided a little and that anxious feeling you got before meeting up for a date has gone away.

This is the point in the relationship that makes or breaks a couple. You aren't riding the emotional wave of new romance anymore and you're coming back to reality. This happens in EVERY serious relationship. It s not a bad thing, it just signifies that the relationship is maturing. Now you must choose if this is the woman you want to MAKE IT WORK WITH. I emphasize this because the choice to make it work with any woman in an LTR is a conscious choice to apply more effort, and requires the wisdom to understand that this is not some fairy tale relationship, and you wont always feel like loving her.

On the same hand, this is also the point where you could decide that you cannot see this woman as your future spouse, and she is not worth the effort that it takes to make a relationship work. In that case you should cut her and move on and avoid waisting both of your times.
 
Atom Smasher

Atom Smasher

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2008
Messages
8,657
Reaction score
6,614
Age
69
Location
The 7th Dimension
luber873 said:
Pair - it's not another guy. Routine is a likely culprit.

Atom - my "gut" says I'm not as attracted to her as I initially thought and she feels this.
Click to expand...
Interesting... I'm actually considering starting a new thread on this very subject.

I think that many men become somewhat bewildered when a woman starts to show signs of diminished interest, when in fact she is simply reacting to the man's own diminished interest.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

L

luber873

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 27, 2013
Messages
59
Reaction score
1
Checkmate12 said:
Luber, I don't know your relationship experience but this is a very common occurrence around the 6-7 month mark. Attraction on both ends has dimmed due to familiarity and the onset of LTR comfort. The excitement has subsided a little and that anxious feeling you got before meeting up for a date has gone away.

This is the point in the relationship that makes or breaks a couple. You aren't riding the emotional wave of new romance anymore and you're coming back to reality. This happens in EVERY serious relationship. It s not a bad thing, it just signifies that the relationship is maturing. Now you must choose if this is the woman you want to MAKE IT WORK WITH. I emphasize this because the choice to make it work with any woman in an LTR is a conscious choice to apply more effort, and requires the wisdom to understand that this is not some fairy tale relationship, and you wont always feel like loving her.

On the same hand, this is also the point where you could decide that you cannot see this woman as your future spouse, and she is not worth the effort that it takes to make a relationship work. In that case you should cut her and move on and avoid waisting both of your times.
Click to expand...
This is great. I wonder if it's better to talk about this face to face, intimately and put it out there. Sometimes that builds connection.

Or if you continue to "game" and act like a "challenge" and let her come to me.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top