"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dilemma: When a girl is overweight

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There is girl I'm really interested in right now. She's got a very cute face, nice personality, we share a lot in common all that stuff. Only issue is, she's overweight. She used to be quite thin a few years ago looking at some of her old myspace photos, and she was hot! I saw her once a couple years ago where she was putting on a few pounds, but looked a bit "thick" but nothing bad at all(in fact I prefer thick woman, not fat thick but Kim Kardashian thick). And when I saw her not too long ago, she's now really packing it on.

Now I'm a guy that REALLY believes in being in shape. I work out, I do lots of bike riding, I do martial arts three times a week, I try to watch what I eat and I believe in living an active lifestyle and hate the whole American way of sitting on the counch watching TV all day while eating a bunch of fat processed foods then blaming it on your thyroid or some sh*t because you've become a fatass meanwhile driving up health insurance cost for everybody to cover your added health risk. I'm only mentioning this so you know where I come from.

I'm starting to dig this chic as a person, and I think I could accept the weight she is at, but my fear is what if she becomes bigger? She's in her mid 20s, and women at that age are about as good looking and fit as they're ever going to be. And if they're already letting themselves go at that age, what's going to happen down the line? Have any of you guys, especially you fitness guys ever liked a girl that was overweight and had concerns about that? I'd feel like a real shallow bastard to brush off an otherwise great girl over something like that, but on the other hand, if she did become fatter after we were in a serious relationship, I'd be none too happy about that.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Here is what I would do. I like thick women as well but not fat. However, a healthy women is also important. I would start dating her, but doing physical activities. If she's not willing to do them, then she isn't worth your time. But if she is, then she'll be a keeper.

She might not be at your level, and don't do anything that she would need to over exert herself, but make it easy and fun.
 

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speakeasy said:
Sounds like sound advice!

I agree. It's good advice.


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Does she say she has been "going to the gym"? I think they all say that and it's usually a lie.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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My girlfriend is thick too. Banging body for my taste (thick thighs, big butt and t!ts. face is about an 8..) and awesome personality. She gets hit on quite often. But, has a gut on her. I look past that fact and take her for who she is. As MacAvoy said; do outdoor activities with her. Frisby, bike riding, basketball, swimming... whatever you like.
 

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My Name is Nobody said:
Does she say she has been "going to the gym"? I think they all say that and it's usually a lie.
No. She said something about a new year's resolution to lose weight, but that's so generic it doesn't mean sh*t unless you see results with your own eyes.
 

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And if they're already letting themselves go at that age, what's going to happen down the line?
Let's go ask Delta Burke and Kirstie Allie and find out!
 
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