Dilema

[yodoso]

Good evening DJ's, on my quest to become a DJ i've run across a Dilema

I work with this attractive female we'll call her donna. I did everything right not judging myself but I can tell from her actions. Anyway I got donna's number basically when I first met her. I did not deny my desires like a nice guy, but I never disrepected her either. I don't give her too much attention, matter of fact she always approaches me. I know this woman is interested in me, you can tell by everything she does especially body language. Any way everything has been going great with me and her.

I've got a male friend on the job we'll call him mike. Me and Mike are good friends. He told me he went out with donna last friday.
I think he's lying

My manager on the job is a real cool guy we'll call him Bob. Bob and Donna talk all the time and are like best friends. Bob told me that Donna said Mike asked her out She turned him down.

Before I knew any of this information I tried to kiss Donna to guage her interest. We were alone on the step at our job. She back down and I said whats wrong, she said look where we are......... and left. I'm not sure if she

1. not interested
2. scared(she is the shy type)
3. Dating my friend

I've got a good friendship with Mike and I really didn't want to mess it up.

As an aspiring when I see Donna again I plan to grab both of her hands, look her in the eyes and say. "I wouldn't ask you this if I didn't need to know", "Did you ever go out with Mike?"

Depending on her answer I'll either continue attracting this woman or forget about her. What do you guys suggest?

 

[Wiesman44]

You're like a little child, so worried about other peoples actions. Grabbing her hand and asking her if she went out with Mike will do you no good, it will only satisfy your curiousity, which really isn't any of your business to begin with.

Second of all, if she was interested in you, she would have kissed you. Plain and simple. Women who find an interest in you cant wait for you to kiss them. Unless you were in work or sitting a table with family, I dont think she'd mind a kiss.

Sounds like you're very inexperienced with women. My best tip would be for you to ask her out on an actual date and get rejected. Its good to be rejected, b/c it gives you motivation to go after more fish.

 

[yodoso]

I was 110% sure that she was interested. I tried to kiss her to give her a strong emotional response thus causing drama and increasing her interest.

 

[Kaine]

You tried to kiss her on the step of YOUR WORK?

What were you doing prior to kissing her, were you discussing the finer points of politics?

Maybe you could wait for a better opportunity like when her grand father's just passed away at the hospital. Yeah that sounds more romantic.

Kaine

 

[Andromax]

As a rule of thumb. Don't ever ask a female something like that unless you are seeing each other exclusively.

Kino and kissing is kind of out of place at work, I woulda done the same thing (push you off), but it might not all be lost.

as much as I oppose dating women that you work with,

Ask her out, or invite her over after work.

You will find out real quick whether or not she digs you.

Don't worry about Mike, just do your thing. All is fair in love and war. Did he stake a flag in her ass claiming her?

 

[DeathDealer]

please do search in sosuave about hitting on b1tches at work, hate repeating myself but here is my standard whine:

you do not hit on h0s at work. if they hit on you, FINE but you do not do that.

 

[MagnuM]

Dating people you see everyday at work is not a very wise thing to do.

 

[yodoso]

You see the thing is we only see each other 1 at the most 2 times a week. Were both part timers with a different schedule every week. I didn't ask her out because I wanted her to be a booty call chick. I made this clear early by asking her If I could come over, while talking to her on the phone. Also I just bought a car and I don't even have enough money to take myself out.

 

[yodoso]

I know this is unlikly, but what if she appologized for not kissing me. Hey, I do have this kind of status at work

i'd probably say something like
"as a man I have to respect your decision, I thought the stairs a good place since it was secluded. Why don't we go out next week and forget this happend"

depending on her answer I can finally know whether or not she was interested.

 

[Desdinova]

1) Don't stick your d1nk in the company ink
2) Don't dwell on rumors
3) Read the DJ bible

You're putting too much thought on her being interested. Your curiosity is going to get the best of you. Face it, there's some 5hit in life we'll never know the answers to.

 

[yodoso]

Well DJ's I saw my kiss attempt girl at work today, as many of you can guess the situation was quite occward. I have no intensions of attracting or pursuing this woman ever again. So basically I greeted her with a hello and that was it. She did say "whats up, you seem quiet today". I just said whats up and left it at that. What should I do, i'm basically next to her for the whole time while I work.


After the greeting should I basically forget she exists?
should I make friendly convo?


know I know why many people don't get involved with people they work with.