"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dilema need help pronto.

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Right...

On New Years Eve I went to my mates party... and this girl i liked turned up...

anyway i was sitting with some of the lads and i looked over and then like 1-2 minutes eye contact so i went in the kitchen for another beer then went and sat next to her

she was talking to me about how she had a headache then she leaned on me and put a blanket thing over both of us...
(so im thinking she is showing some definite signs right?)

anyway i was stroking her leg then i started stroking her p*ssy for about 5minutes ish, then she tells her friends she has a bad headache... (sitting other side of me) and that she is going home, she calls taxi gets up while im stroking her and goes...

now im thinking WHAT THE FCUK

now im just wondering what the fcuk i should do because tomorrow i go back to camp (im in the army)
i sometimes get weekends home but otherwise itl be 2 months till im home

what do you guys think i should do because i really wanna meet with this girl
and also do you think shes into me or??
im clueless.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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please someone i go tomorrow and wont have much internet access
 
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In a hurry to get to the gym but...I think you can still get some play. She never resisted or said "no" to your face. So means she had interest question is how much and if it's enough to let you go further. I'd say something to her friend along the lines of (if you can't talk to other girl directly) "You could be like I'll be here or there this night and we should all hang out again, you and your friend seemed pretty cool" .

Just try and build some rapport with everyone...as soon as one of her buddies detects the "I just want ***** signals" she'll be quick to play mother hen **** blocker extraordinaire:p
 

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Ok, i see where your going with this but im away on base alot and dont reallly get dates that i can get home untill they are quite close...
 

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guys i go in literally hours and im still needing advice
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJDamage said:
You missed your chance.
I think it was more of a case of him screwing his chance up.


Lil hooligan,what the *beep* were you thinking?


She told you she had a HEADACHE,then she put some cover over the two of you and leaned into you.



She said she had a headache,so of course the natural thing to do is a situation like that is to start stroking her p*ssy. :rolleyes:



I take it you've never heard of escalation.


She snuggled up to you,which yes is an IOI,but you should have put your arm around her and drew her closer in to you.



Maybe held her hand and given her a kiss on the neck.


Then if she had be receptive to those things,then moved things a bit farther.



It's messed up that you're leaving tomorrow,but I don't know what type of advice you're looking for to turn this thing around.
 

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Well yeh I put my arm around her and was talking to her for about 20 mins then I put my hand on her leg and escalated... Not getting any signs she wanted me to stop I carried on then the rest as it's been said, but by the time she turned up I was basically smashed so my game was off and just wanting *****, but yeh iv known this girl for while and I would like something serious if possible , have I screwed up enough to the point of no return?
 

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Oh and later on after she left I got with her friend who knows I like the one with headache. So now telling you this I realised u fu*ked up even more... SH*T
 

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the timing is bad. i dont think you've messed it up cause you've known her for a while.

try to meet up when you get back!

maybe she really did have a headache. although i do know foreplay or sex is the best temporary cure for the hangover headache haha


EDIT: i wrote this before i read you got with her friend
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So iv f*cked up big time and made it even worse by getting with her friend

ah sh*t.
 
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